Post # 1
I was looking at FB last night and saw that DH had added a new friend with the same last name. I asked who it was. It’s his uncle. An uncle I didn’t know existed. An uncle who wasn’t invited to our wedding! WTH?? I freaked out! “Why didn’t you tell me you had another uncle?? We should have sent him an invitation!!” “Oh well he couldn’t make it anyway…” GRRRRRRR.
Then another uncle of his sent me an invite on FB. When I check out his profile I see that he is living with his GF and her daughter. NEITHER OF THEM WERE ON HIS INVITATION TO OUR WEDDING. They both ended up coming with him anyway and I have been P.O.ed since our wedding that he would bring a “random GF and her daughter.” I didn’t realize that they have been living together!! I asked DH about it and he just said “Yeah, but they’re not married or anything, what’s the big deal?”
OMG. I’m that bride. The one who totally screwed the pooch on etiquette. AND I DIDN’T EVEN KNOW IT. I’m so ticked at DH right now, but he honestly has no clue how very wrong it was not to invite those people! We invited a RANDOM cousin of his who DEFINITELY couldn’t make it, but not his uncle??
(Just when you thought that was it…)
He then tells me that he has three aunts on his mother’s side that he didn’t invite either because he knew they couldn’t come anyway.
Post # 3
Ahh that’s horrible! It’s not your fault that your husband didn’t tell you! And all the people that he invitied who couldn’t come!
Post # 4
*sigh* Guys just don’t get it do they?! Every time I mention etiquette related things, FI just looks at me glossed over an tells me he doesn’t understand why it’s such a big deal. I think it’s in their genetic code…
Post # 5
Mightysapphire atleast if you ever do meet them and get confronted you have the right to admit you didnt even know they existed, & thats not only your hubbs mistake. Obviously they didnt keep in touch as often?!
Post # 6
Oh MS! Don’t worry too much… this wasn’t your mistake! 🙂
Actually, my FI is no different. Trying to get a guest list out of him is like pulling teeth. Our wedding is going to be in Canada & most of his guests have never left his state in the US! If he doesn’t think they’ll make it– he doesn’t want to invite them. I’m like, no that’s not how it works… Sigh.
Post # 7
Yeah, I don’t think I’ll ever be meeting these people. He has a strange family dynamic. So much so that I didn’t know these people existed! But I have aunts and uncles I don’t speak to or visit. They all still received an invitation! It’s just…the RIGHT thing to do!! And he knew they wouldn’t come, he was aware that I had invited many family members just for the sake of inviting them because I can’t pick and choose which aunts and uncles to send an invite to. But he didn’t even MENTION that he had more aunts and an uncle?? UGH.
Post # 8
Hahah – I don’t think you’re “that bride”. I don’t think you have anything to worry about either. FI knows about my Uncle (dad’s brother) but I haven’t seen or heard from the man in 15yrs, he’s obviously not invited to our wedding. FI will probably never set eyes on him.
Look at the bright side, if you didn’t even know they existed, never mind not having met them – they’re not a part of your FI’s life & odds are you might never meet them. There was no way you could’ve see this coming, it’s not your fault.
Post # 9
Don’t blame yourself tooo much. I’m sure they aren’t still having hard feelings, but I might write a message to the uncle who never got invited at all, apologizing.
I would be a little peeved/embarrassed if I were you. Hopefully family is forgiving 🙂
Post # 10
OMG this sounds like my FI! Except for me, I knew the people existed but he didn’t see why we should invite people he knew wouldn’t come. Low and behold, we are hearing whispers that several of them are going to try and make it down from Michigan—shock(!) but I’m excited to meet them. Men just don’t get it and it drives me nuts to explain it and still get a shrug with a response of, “Don’t worry.” UGH!!
Post # 11
Oh my gosh, I just posted a huge rant about my FI not understanding or even caring about wedding ettiquette. I feel your pain lady!
Post # 12
Sounds like Guy Logic to me. DH didn’t invite a few of his really close buddies that he was deployed with “because i know they couldn’t make it”. Even though they were in the sand box for 15 months together.