Post # 1
I have a huge family, and my FI has 3 brothers, who I’m sure are going to be his groomsmen. None of my sisters are old enough to be bridesmaids, just juniors. Besides that, I have 3 grown brothers. So, do you think my brothers are going to be upset that they aren’t part of the wedding? I was kind of hoping I could work them in somewhere… Not to mention, I’ll have my friends in the ceremony and he wont have room for his… Should he ask his brothers or friends to be groomsmen? I have no idea what the ettiquette for this is!!!
Post # 3
This is a tough one! There is no one etiquette rule. When there are too many family members to ask, some people just ask family to be in the wedding party, other people just ask friends. Either way it’s egalitarian and no one’s feelings are hurt.
How does your FI feel? I think it makes sense for him to ask his brothers to stand up with him, but beyond that, it’s up to him. He might want to ask your brothers, or he might want to ask his friends. I don’t think it’s up to you. And because it isn’t your decision, your brothers shouldn’t get offended if he doesn’t ask them.
Post # 4
I think your FI could still ask all of them–six groomsmen doesn’t seem like a lot. That way all eligible family could be included and no one’s feelings would be hurt. Alternatively, you could have your brothers act as ushers, readers, MC’s–whatever roles you think suit them. Though there’s no rule that says you have to include all family members, I’d probably still want them involved in some capacity. Probably also depends on how close you all are, though.
Post # 5
Your FI should have the option to choose his own groomsmen. If he goes with your brothers…great…if not…still not a problem.
However, if you want your brothers to be a part of the ceremony can they do a reading, escort family into the ceremony/reception, etc.
Post # 6
We’ve talked about it and him asking my brothers to stand with him is not an option… Which I kind of assumed in the first place, I just didnt know if it would be weird to have all family on up with him and friends up with me… and 6 is waaay to much for us. We’re looking at a small party