Post # 1
Because we are having a Catholic ceremony we have a very unwanted gap between the ceremony and reception. We are already having a hard enough time to get people to come to the reception(which is hurting in itself) but I’m scared we are going to have an empty church with just our close family. I know that’s all we need but the fact that no one wants to be there makes me feel like utter crap. It makes me feel unloved, unwanted and sort of used.
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Come on down! We have plenty of seats to fill! Our minimum might not be met and at $140 per head, I might be a little sick.
Post # 5
Oh dear..I have the same fear! I’m also having a catholic wedding…my reception is emmediatly following, but my fear is that everyone will come to the reception and not the church…and the reason being is because I ended up with my wedding on a Friday, and even though I pushed the ceremony to 7pm, some people are saying they aren’t sure they can make it to the ceremony because of getting off work and having to still go home and get ready…but more people are saying they are taking the day off or taking half tha day off now, so I’m not as worried, but at first they made me feel like no one was coming. =(
Still, I do worry…but I can’t imagine everyone who matters wont’ be there, so I think you should focus on that…but also have your parents spread the word that it would mean so much to you if they could make the ceremony.
I went to a wedding that had a gap before..it was like a two hour gap..the bride and groom drove off and went on a cruise before meeting with their photographer at the reception venue (they hd pics taken outside the reception venue) and we slowly made our way to the reception, I remember we stopped for gas but the time really just flew by…not sure what else we did while we waited but it was no big deal. We did arrive to the reception a little early but everything was pretty much set up so we just hung out till everyone else arrived. By The Way..their church service was pretty backed, almost half the pews on both sides were full.
Post # 6
I am sorry :(..we´re having a small wedding (51 – 53 people), family-only. The ceremony will be in a beautiful garden in the same place where we’re having the reception. After the ceremony (13H30) we’re having cocktails in the garden and photos and around 15H we should be entering the room for the reception. My Fiance had a good idea – we’re marrying in one of the most romantic places in the country (Sintra) and some of his family that live upNorth don’t know the town and it’s beauties so he even suggested that they took the electrical train that takes them around Sintra and it’s castles and palaces BEFORE the Ceremony or even after. But we decided there’s no reason for it because we have everything planned.
I can’t immagine people don’t coming to the ceremony or the reception :(. You deserve more. We all do.
Post # 7
It’s just reality that not everyone can dedicate an entire day to your wedding. We have friends doing this and it wouuh require us hiring a babysitter for 10hours to go to both. Those people really close to you will go to both, butit’s was your choice to do a wedding with a gap, so focus on the good stuff not the rest. In the end it’s about you and your soon to be husband, everything else is just a bonus!
Post # 8
Thanks girls… We will have a 2 and a half hour gap after the ceremony. This whole wedding has made realized how alone I really am in life.
Post # 9
@TopazWedding: what makes you think that people won’t come b/c of the time gap? i’ve been to many weddings with a larger gap than that. are you having a cocktail hour before the reception? your invites are out already i’m presuming.
i know that you have a minimum that you have to achieve. no worries, i’m sure some bees will be happy to fill those spots for you 🙂
Post # 10
I’m so sorry to hear that you are stressing about this. I didn’t realize that gaps between ceremonies and receptions were that big of a deal. Its very standard in our culture. In fact, our wedding is a 2 day affair, with the ceremony on one day and the reception the next day. I’m sure the people near and dear to you will make the effort to come out! I know I would :).
Post # 11
Aww, I’m sorry. 🙁
I’m kind of worried about people not showing up for our ceremony, too. Our reception is immediately afterwards, but people where I live (in S. America) are always running late and a lot of them aren’t interested in the Church wedding as much as the “party” afterwards. But we’re kind of tricking them… 🙂 We put 7:00 PM on the invitations but won’t actually start the ceremony until 7:30. Hahaha, hopefully this way we’ll have more guests present!
Post # 12
@Sunchick19: I understand that, still hurts though, since I feel that the ceremony is the biggest part of the day. I’m doing the catholic mass for my mother and for my deceased grandmother who I miss dearly.
@mypinkshoes: They’ve already told my mother they don’t want to bother, and those people ended up RSVPing no anyways. I’ve actually had relatives of mine tell me they don’t give a crap whats going on in my life. Invites out, cocktail starts at 6.