(Closed) HUGE fight

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i feel like when i fight with fi and we work through it… it is just confirmation that we can make it through anything together!

Post # 4
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Totally agree with you.  I always thought a big fight like that meant the end… after our first fight Fiance looked at me like I was crazy when I said “I guess that’s it then.”  He compared me to Chandler from that Friends episode…lol.

I really think that being able to disagree and argue and (unfortunately, but I think most of us are guilty of it) reacting to stress like that make a relationship stronger.  Sometimes you just end up arguing until you get to the *point* of what’s bothering both of you, and when you can do that and at the end understand each other better and are able to help each other out, that’s a great sign of an amazing relationship and it only helps make your connection stronger!

Post # 5
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

totally agree!!

Post # 6
9 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s almost sad how planning a wedding … a day that it suppose to be one of the most imporant days of your and your fi’s life can cause so much stress! It can be bitter sweet. We are only 5 months into the planning and have had our share of arguments about the wedding but always work it out. I will be happy once the planning is almost done and we can enjoy being engaged before the wedding!

Post # 7
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Agree’d. I agree with @pinkbutton512: we’re trying REALLY hard to just ENJOY this process but it still get’s stressful and I know we have rocky roads ahead… especially during those “fun times of the month” ๐Ÿ™‚ The most important thing, is that you grow and learn and move on. 

Post # 8
4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@missjyc: I feel you date twin! This is such and exciting but extremely stressful time!  You’ll come out stronger for it in the end ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Has your planning been stressful? I find when we’re stressed, we get set off a lot easier.

I’m glad you guys talked through it and came out stronger ! Good job ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We had a couple of those right before. It definitley was stressful! I am glad you guys were able to work it out!

Post # 11
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh, pre-wedding stress.

The point is you worked thru it, probably realized you are both stressed and a little irrational.  That’s the important part.. you aren’t letting it go and fester and build into something bigger.

Glad things are okay!  You will be in SUCH a better place when the wedding is DONE!

Post # 12
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This sounds totally normal to me! We’ve only had one wedding-related stress fight (over the venue, ugh), but 99% of it was about stress. We’re over a year away! I can’t even imagine the stress of being 10 days out. As long as you guys realize that what happened was more about stress relief than any actual major problems, it sounds like you’ll get over it just fine.

Post # 14
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree esp with the “waiting” test.

Post # 15
3576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh man…I hate when stuff like that happens.  I’m glad you both sorted it out.  We also had a very similar experience not too long ago.  We haven’t had an argument in MONTHS…and really nothing ever wedding related. 

Jump back about 3 weeks.  A friend of mine has been helping us choreograph our first dance.  Mind you…very basic steps, nothing crazy.  I just don’t want to be on the dance floor swaying from side to side.

 We had two practices with her and he did great!  But he wasn’t convinced.  Then we were home on a Sunday and I started our song and thought we were going to practice in our kitchen.  This led to Fiance basically throwing a tantrum about the entire dance which escalated to levels that were not even on the map.  His voice was rising, mine was rising and then things other than the dance were thrown in…so not necessary.  So I looked at him and told him to no longer worry about the dance we’ll not worry about it because one less thing to stress about it better for me.

Then we didn’t speak for 2 hours.  We’ve since made up and I’ve not touched on our dance for the past 3 weeks…until he did.  Since then, he’s apologized profusely and actually told me he was an a$$h_l_ and really wants to do it…or something close to what we were doing.

While I’m happy about it, did we really have to go through all of that?!

Post # 16
2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t feel bad. We got in an argument (over something really stupid) on the WAY to our rehearsal. It’s just a stressful and crazy busy time.

I think the most important part is the way you handle it. Letting it go and making up.

Planning was a stressful, time-consuming thing for me. Of course it paid off as everything went smoothly and I loved every minute of it, but since the wedding it’s been nice to have time to just be with my husband without worrying or stressing or making lists in my head.

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