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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    I was not sure where to put this post... but ok so here is my thinking

     

    My FH is ginormous LOL.. he is like 6ft 6in tall

    and I am a tiny little 4ft 9in tall

     

    well normally this really doesnt bother me sure ppl stare alot and family and friends like to pick on us about  how funny we look together but I just got to thinking the other day On i dunno what poses we can do together that we wont look so odd together in our wedding photos.... the top of my head only comes to about his nipples

     

    AND WE JOKE ABOUT THIS ALL THE TIME BUT HOW IN THE WORLD ARE WE GONNA DANCE TOGETHER? We joke around and dance at home but he usually picks me up or stands me up on something but for our first dance where am i too put my hands? so it doesnt look nor feel so alkward with everyone watching lol

     

     

     
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    Blueshoes2    June 2010   PA

    Wow!  That's quite the difference.  I'm not sure what advice to offer, as I'm only 7" shorter than my FI (will only be 3" once I'm in my shoes)!

    Would 4" heels make a difference in how your hands fall on him?  I really wouldn't worry too much about it!  You guys could do a lot of poses where he's lower than you, or where he's even picking you up :)

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    my hands can barely reach the tops of his shoulders.... so usually when we are just goofing or dancing at home or something i hold him around the waist with my face in his belly or wrap my legs around him and he picks me up ... I supppose 4 inch heels would hell how my hands would fall on him if i didnt litterally fall on him first lol... I am not a heel girl lol

     

    I'm not so worried about the photos other than family cutting his head off or getting only my head lol but im just really not sure how we are to dance and it not look completely alkward or feel alkward

     

     

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    Geesh! I thought that R and I had it bad - he's about 6'1" (or 6', I can never remember) and I'm just barely 5'. I wear heels - always 4"! - whenever we dance, so it's not so bad. 

    We get made fun of a lot, too, though. It sucks, but I barely notice anymore. 

     
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    futuredrbraun    May 15, 2010  

    I posted a thread about this a while back :) I am about 5'1 and my FI is 6'4 (almost 6'5)!! I felt weird about our height difference at first because I had never dated someone over 6'0. Now I absolutely LOVE how protected I feel with him. There is a picture of a couple dancing on this thread and that is how we plan on dancing....left hands held and then arms around the back.

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/me-51-and-fi-64-an

     
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    I'm 5' and the boy is 6'4. Its not as big of a height difference as you have but its still pretty significant!

    I say dance how you normaly do, maybe with one hand around his waist and holding his other hand. It will look cute in pictures, and who cares what others say :)

    And I think as long as your photographer has a heads up on your height difference they can think of different poses beforehand that will minimize the difference.

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    Well I have always liked taller guys usually only around 6ft though this is a little much but i love my big ol tall boo bear ... I dunno i just like a big tall manly man i suppose.

    I am not a heels girl at all! So I doubt i will be wearing much of a heel on my wedding day.

    It really doesnt bother me that people stare or poke fun we are so happy together it doesnt matter...besides standing on my tip toes all the time just gives my legs and rear a workout :P

     

    LOL I am glad to see that there is other people who somewhat know what I am going through... Honestly in everyday life we barely notice the difference until someone points it out.  I guess the first time we really noticed how funny we looked together was we were walking through the mall the other day and came up a window that was reflecting like a mirror and I said hey baby look... and it was so funny and he stepped infront of me and said where did you go ... we were just laughing about it ... everyone was probably thinking we were crazy.

     

    I will see if i can find some pictures of us standing next to each other... most all pictures we take together we are sitting down.

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    So here we are going to a 60's themed party so dont mind the crazy attire lol  ... this is us standing side by side and me standing on a kitchen chair and still not as tall as him

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    future mrs w    06/19/10   Hollywood, FL

    Wow ok so I thought FI and I were really off but you have us beat. I guess you would have to wear really big heels or just don't sweat the small stuff. No pun intended lol.Here's us:

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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Wow, that IS a difference! DH and I are the same height, so yeah.

    Would you feel comfortable making a joke out of it? I can see how it would be uncomfortable to dance that way. What if you DID stand on a chair? Embrace your height, right? Or, what if he just picked you up? =]. You might as well embrace it and own it!

    Although i can see that if dancing is your concern, I can only laugh about other concerns you may have =].

    And btw, dancing is awkward for everyone, so don't even worry about it! =]

     
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    alishaneva    May 2011   Lancaster, PA

    Wow! I wish I could help ... we're the exact same height ... I'll ask my aunt and uncle what they did to combat that ... they're about the same height difference as the two of you.

    And, like, ejs said, dancing is awkward no matter what... so no worries!

     
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    Abilee    5.21.2010   Youngstown, Ohio

    I have the OPPOSITE problem of the rest of you....

    FI is 5'6" and I'm 5'8". I'm wearing a completely flat (perhaps even slipper) shoe on our wedding day and I'm hoping that he can get a shoe with a thicker sole. We don't mind if we appear to be about the same height, but I definitely don't want to tower over him.

     
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    Mrs. Louboutin    July 2010  

    @FutureMrs.Harless - in that picture, you look like a little barbie doll!! 

    I love the one where you are standing on a chair and are still shorter! 

    Just wear high heels.  Anyone who knows you won't be surprised  by the height difference.  Embrace it!

     
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    sboston06    October 10, 2010   Boston area

    I found these great wedge flip flops at Victoria's Secret...they are very comfy and not like regular heels.

    I totally feel your pain.  FI is 6'8" and I'm 5'2" and we get comments too.  During your first dance, just focus on you and him and how happy you are together.  Don't let anyone make you feel awkward on that special day!  Here is a pic of FI and I together...we normally dance like this, with our hands holding and my hand around his waist.  He puts his hand around or on my shoulder.

    If it helps you get more comfortable dancing, you can always take dance lessons...FI and I plan on doing that to get more used to each other.  For such a big guy, he's kind of awkward and doesn't know what to do with extra long arms!

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    simpleandchic    November 27, 2010   Adelaide, South Australia

    We have the same problem, my fi is 6ft3 and I am 5ft. isn't it funny how really tall guys often go for really short girls.

    I wear high heels all the time this pic is me wearing 4 inch heels and it looks ok

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    October2010Bride    October 23, 2010   San Francisco, CA, Getting Married in Pleasanton, CA

    I'm with you ladies on the huge height difference thing!  I agree that the easiest way to dance is holding the left or right hands together with the other wrapped around your man's back.  As for photos, I have found that when I stand in front of my fiance and look back at him, he doesn't seem quite as tall as he usually does.  By the way, I am 5'2" and he is 6'5".  I usually wear 3"+ heels too, and that helps!

     

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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    Sometimes I wish we had a huge height difference! I'm a giant. *tromp tromp* We're both 6'3", so I'm not much help. :p

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    @ejs4y8... you would be suprised how we dont have a problem with other things ;)

    Thanks so much everyone for the support suggestions and comments lol....I think maybe we will just take a few practice runs... the issue is more of it being alkward or feeling uncomfortable or unnatural just on the physical side of things... not us being embarrased about how we look.

     

    @sboston06--  Looking at your picture... your height differences is pretty similar to ours. I totally agree my man is just completely alkward  too he is all hunchback in most vehicles when he sits like in church he has a hard time because of his long legs. And bless his heart .... he has pretty much no clothes that fit correctly

     
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    future wolf    October 10, 2010   Il

    I can't help on the dancing front but on pictures I think I have a few ideas.  Do lots of sitting down ones (or you in his lap) or even laydown on your tummies proped up by elbows and had pictues taken on you faces.  Or, if you want something fun (and you said you guy like to joke about the height diff) take a ladder with you and have some fun shotting pictures where you guys are the same height or you are taller (make sure you show the ladder so its fun and playful).

     

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