Huge sibling dilemma -disinvite brother/groomsmen? HELP

posted 3 months ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

what do you think he will do to ruin your wedding?

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

What exactly has he done/what was the fight about?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

stephyrosee :  Violence? Well that is seriously not okay. You have to worry about the safety of your other guests. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m of the opinion that a relationship needs to be completely totally 100% irreprable with no hope of every reconciling to not invite a sibling to a wedding. Honestly, the idea that he might get drunk or perhaps make a scene isn’t enough of a causation in my mind to uninvite someone to a wedding. That is such a huge move and can never be undone. You venue manager’s irritation level is not more important than your brother attending your wedding. 

I think you need to have a talk with him, that you love him, that you want him and his girlfriend to share in the day, and you hope that he’ll try to remove himself from problems before letting them get under his skin. I’d also be sure your family knows not to antagonize him. If he makes threats that he’ll get drunk or start a fight, have some people on standby that will escort him out. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

If you do invite, I’d hire a security guard, just in case he starts escalating in any way. The guard can escort him from the premises and hopefully avoid any issues that may piss off your venue manager.

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