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    said8me    October 31, 2010   Salem, MA (married in Vegas)

    So the FI is pretty hell bent on getting his groomsmen each humidors (ya know, cigar boxes).  His reasoning is that 2 outta the 3 (the 3rd is my bro), like to smoke cigars. 

    I've been with FI for 6 years and have seen these two friends smoke cigars all of 3-4 times.  And as far as I know, they don't keep a stockpile of cigars in their homes... moreso that they smoke them when someone gets married, has a baby, etc. 

    FI thinks that with their very own humidors, his friends will buy and save many cigars to put in the box!  ... and I highly doubt that.

    I have no good ideas of my own to try to change his mind with.  The two friends are incredible musicians, and my bro is an engineer graduating from college soon.

    Ideas? Anyone? Bueller?

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    I personally think that the groomsman gifts should be up to your FI - if he's excited about giving them humidors and thinks they'll like them, then why is it necessary to change his mind? Its a gift for his friends. 

    I know my fiance was given a Cuban cigar as a GM gift a few years back and even though he hardly ever smokes cigars, he was THRILLED by it and still talks about how "epic" it was (haha.) I definitely don't understand why it was so cool, but I think cigars are kind of a guy thing.

     
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    DemoDreamer    May 2011   Ohio

    I agree with farmersdaughter. I think it's a cute Idea. If he's excited about it & thinks they will love it then I say just let it go! Let him have his moment. You can choose what you want for your girls; let him choose for the guys. Honestly; It's a guy thing. No matter if they smoke cigars or not; they probably WILL love it. Even if us woman don't get it. lol

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Well, I wouldn't try too hard to sway him.  This is one of his projects.  You don't want him to feel as though you're trying to take it away.  That being said, you're probably right.  This isn't the most practical of gifts.  But if that's what he wants to get them, so be it.  You could always get some catelogs with other ideas and lay them around the house.  I did this, unintentionally.  My FI picked one up and decided to get his guys dog tags.  I think that works for his crew.  Maybe your guy can just do a nice bracelet, with a name or nickname engraved in it?  Sounds like a nice gift to me. 

     

     
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    monitajb    July 17, 2010   Sacramento

    At least your FI doesn't want to get them bone handled knives. Yes, that's what my FI wants to get for his GM. And he makes me look at websites filled with knives. I don't make him look at shoe websites!

    It is a little goofy, but if that is what he's really into...meh. Let him.

     
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    Miss Burgundy    May 28, 2010   Southern California

    Haha my FI would LOVE a humidor!

     
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    Miss BooBoo    November 5, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA, DW in Punta Cuna

    I think that sounds like a GREAT idea!! I actually just emailed the suggestion to my FI.

     
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    MrsBtobe    July 17, 2010   Canada

    FI would totally give out a humidor! He just got one for himself and he loves it. His friends smoke every few weeks though...I may just have to steal your FI's idea.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    I think it's a cute idea, too :)

    The only thing I might suggest is maybe getting your brother something more to his tastes. If you know he's not into cigars, maybe nicely suggest that you know he won't be into it, and maybe getting him something equally cool, but different is the way to go?

    But for the other two guys, it sounds great! Dudes are different when it comes to gifts. They love expensive things that sometimes make no sense.

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    FI would love a humidor!  And he doesn't even smoke cigars THAT much but it's def a gift he would love.

    Let your FI run with this one.  I'm not in love with most of FI's GM gift ideas but he's not picking my BM gifts so I'm leaving him alone ;o)

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    Humidors are excellent gifts especially for cigar smokers. Although they seem to smoke rarely, it isn't a horrible idea. I don't think it is bad to allow your FI to do what he wants for his guy friends. My assumption is that he isn't telling you his thoughts on the gifts you are purchasing for your girls so I wouldn't do it. Now if he is, then maybe giving him other ideas will be useful.

     
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    bree72    December 31, 2008  

    "Dudes are different when it comes to gifts. They love expensive things that sometimes make no sense."

    Ha! Miss Chapstick...this is one the truest sentences EVER! Love it. 

    And I also agree that the OP should let him give his groomsmen what he wants to, especially if he really is excited about it. 

     
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    HunnyBear    September 11, 2010   New Jersey

    I actually like the humidor idea.  I would let him pick what he wants to give his GM. Guys don't always go the route of what's sentimental and meaningful when getting each other gifts, they go for what's cool.  

     
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    said8me    October 31, 2010   Salem, MA (married in Vegas)

    The masses have spoken!  Thanks ladies! 

    I didn't realize that it was more "his choice" than it was "our choice" because he was suggesting things (and turning down my ideas LOL) for the girls. ;)

    Heck, if this means we can order em and cross one thing off the to do list... so be it! Hehe!

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    I agree - it's a neat idea! even if they don't regularly smoke, i think guys would love the gesture and probably have a few on hand "just in case" now that they own a humidor.

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Eh. They might not get much or any use out of them, but I'd leave it up to your FI.

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    I'm jealous that he's coming up with ideas at all! My fiance keeps asking me what to get his groomsmen, and I'm always like, "I have no idea - you've known them for YEARS longer than I have!"

     
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    Kingcake    04/09/2011  

    I love this idea.  It is totally something that they may not buy for themselves, but would love to have.  What a fun way to collect and keep special cigars on hand, for special occasions, like your wedding!  

     
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    said8me    October 31, 2010   Salem, MA (married in Vegas)

    I think I was hoping he'd choose something a bit more sentimental, or at least something that would travel easier (DW across the country), or could be used more often.

    Plus, I didn't see any connection to cigar boxes -seeing as how he doesn't smoke them nor do his friends really.

    Aw well. Like I said, get it ordered, and cross it off! ;)

     
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    alivoo01    September 18, 2010   Dallas, TX

    I agree, this is his gift to the GM for being there for him so if he thinks they'll like it - so be it.

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    I think it should be your FI's decision on what to buy them. And he may be right, with a humidor, they may buy and save more. My dad used to smoke cigars randomly, but then got into it when he got his humidor. Its kind of a neat thing to have anyways!

     

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