humor me…do you bring wedding gifts to reception for DW wedding??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
9892 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Skittles131:  I would do a shower gift and 1 gift for the wedding/reception (they’re one event in my mind).  If you’re giving cash, I would probably put it in a card and bring it to the actual wedding (presumably there’s a reception there).  I wouldn’t bring another gift to the reception here – I assume that’s mostly meant for people who weren’t able to make it to Jamaica.

Post # 5
Member
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Skittles131:  Most places that people register these days will have the option to deliver the gift directly to the couple before the wedding. I think if I was giving a gift off a registery to someone who was having a destination wedding, this is what I would do. If you did this, you wouldn’t need to take a gift to the reception, and it would seem more like a “wedding” gift instead of a “reception” gift, if that’s what you’re worried about.

I know people have differing opinions on whether you need to get someone something for a shower AND the wedding, so you may get different answers about that part.

ETA: I read your post wrong. I just re-read it and changed my answer accordingly 🙂

Post # 6
Hostess
9892 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Skittles131:  Same answer, different location.  I would give her a shower gift and bring a wedding gift to the reception.

Post # 8
Member
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Skittles131:  Bring the shower gift with you to the shower, and if you’re giving a gift that can fit into a card (cash, check, gift card) bring that to the reception.  Otherwise, ship it or have it sent to their place.

Post # 9
Member
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I agree with giving a shower gift and bringing a wedding gift to the reception.

I did that for a friend of mine who got married in Vegas. Pretty much everyone brought gifts/cards to the reception she had a few months later.

Post # 10
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Skittles131:  I agree that I’d bring a gift to the shower and then bring a gift to the at-home reception, personally. (Same answer applies even if you have a gift sent straight to them from the store for their wedding/reception.) 🙂

 

Post # 11
Member
3707 posts
Sugar bee

I bring a boxed gift to the shower. If I don’t go, I have the registered store mail it directly to the bride’s home. For weddings I always write a check. I like to send the card and check a few weeks before the wedding, because it never fits in my purse and I don’t like carrying the envelope around. In my area – NE USA, 95-99% of wedding gifts taken to the recption come in envelopes.

Post # 12
Member
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Skittles131:  in your situation I would buy one gift for the shower because gifts are usually opened or at least displayed nicely and then I would bring a greeting card to the at home reception.

These days I send gifts ahead time for weddings and bring a card to the actual event. 

Post # 13
Member
6859 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I would do a smaller shower gift and mail the wedding gift ahead of either the wedding or the reception. People bring gifts to receptions, I fully realize, but it is considered more ideal  to send ahead. 

Post # 14
Member
1248 posts
Bumble bee

@Skittles131:  I would try to avoid taking a gift to the reception.  It is an inconvenience to someone to have to load & unload all the gifts. I would either deliver it to the house or have it delivered.  I’m assuming the gifts are usually not opened at the reception. 

Post # 15
Member
1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would give a shower gift, and then yes give a “wedding gift”. If it’s cash, you can bring it with you. If it’s a box gift, send it. You can do this anytime in between their wedding and at home reception.

Post # 16
Member
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Skittles131:  I tend to send my wedding gifts rather than bring them to the reception.

However, if I were going to both the shower and the reception, I would bring a gift to the shower and give them a wedding gift. Whether one prefers to bring wedding gifts to the reception or to send them directly to the couple is a personal choice, though it’s more likely not to go missing if you send it directly to them.

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