Hungry guests = unhappy guests :(

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 3
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Thats a great example of what not to do. Ive honestly never herd of a cocktail hour without appatizers. You need to feed people who are drinking otherwise they get smashed….. quickly… 

I dont think your being mean in any way. She should have cut some flowers (or something) and better taken care of her guests. I understand why the groom is mad.

Not to ramble but the food was #1 on our list, followed by #2 Drinks and #3 the music. Once those three were paid for we can then use whats left to buy phots, flowers and clothes. 


Post # 4
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would hate it if my guests left hungry.

A reminder to guests with allergies. Feel free to write “seafood allergy” on the rsvp card if the hosts negelct to ask.

Post # 5
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@julies1949:  +1 to writing in your allergies even if there isnt a space. Allergies should ALWAYS be accomidated.

Post # 6
7896 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Damn thats pretty bad!

Post # 7
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ooh!  That sounds awful!!  Also, it doesn’t sound like it was just you who was starving!  That really sucks for their wedding legacy!  Ouch, I would be humiliated if I did that to my guests.  All the flashing of money, and they skimp on the food?  Not cool.  We did our own food, and I had worked in foodservice for many years, so we had a grip on what we needed.  We had a ton of appetizers and a really healthy buffet.  We had enough food for about 130.  We only had about 85 show up (even though 110 rsvp’ed yes).  And we had damn little food leftover.  I was really glad we beefed it up, and I was really glad 85 guests ate for 120.  I think it means our food rocked!

I would say that your experience from last night should be a good reminder to any bees who have a wedding coming up.  I find it odd that they would serve just a shrimp entree.  A lot of people have allergies to shrimp.  Not very well thought out, at all.  What a complete bummer for that couple and you, their guests.

Post # 8
5763 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yup my Fi and I spent loads of $$$ going to a DW overseas last summer. Gorgeous venue, wonderful wedding overall, but held way out on the outskirts of town (a town we had to fly to in the first place). Had a late breakfast, arrived to venue/hotel around 2pm so no lunch, 4:00 ceremony, 5:00 cocktail hour with delicious but tiny hors d’ouvers, 7:00 dinner— delicious, but tiny portions. We were stuck in the middle of nowhere with no car and no options to get a snack, and we left around 10:00 and went to our room to sleep because I was so hungry that I had a raging headache 🙁

Post # 9
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

I think you are spot on about how bad a lack of food is and how that wedding will be talked about.  You don’t have to feed me filet mignon, but if you are going to have a gap like that and have your reception over a mealtime you don’t get stingy!!

Post # 10
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Mum and Dad didn’t want to have appetizers at the cocktail hour because they said it was necessary as their was a full open bar (cocktails, beer, wine, champagne, spirits, soft drink, juices) and we had a massive buffet afterwards (more than 30 dishes).

Last minute (about 2 days before the wedding) i added tempura prawns and veggies, cones of sweet potato and aoli and mixed nuts, japanese crackers etc. SO GLAD I DID IT! You just need a few finger foods during cocktail hour.

Post # 11
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If your only going to have one option, it shouldn’t be something that so many people can’t/don’t eat. Seriously, I’m not allergic, but I wouldn’t have had a bite of food and would have been miserable. I thought weddings I’ve been to with the portion sizes were too small were bad, but at least there was something I could eat. If I were related to the bride/couple I would have been so embarrassed about this situation.

Post # 13
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This was my mother’s worst fear, so she ordered so much food for my cocktail style reception.  At my cousin’s wedding, my Canadian relatives kept asking when they were going to serve dinner!  It seems silly to go a wedding where the couple has clearly spent a lot of money on decorations, attire, venue, etc and to not have enough food to eat.  

Post # 14
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I agree.  To me, food is one of those things that can make or break a wedding and it was important to us to have 1) an abundance of food and 2) a great variety of food

Post # 15
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ButterflyButterfly:  I don’t understand why they wouldn’t have made sure dietary requirements like allergies etc. were covered for. Did you advise them you had an allergy? Did they ask for this information in their RSVP?  And who serves purely seafood dishes with no other options? That is asking for trouble – too many people don’t like seafood not to mention the allergies issues. Food is super important to me, we are erring on the side of having too much rather than too little.

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