(Closed) Hurt a good friend's feelings..

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re both a bit wrong. You’re supposed to send invitations to everyone you want to invite, even if they’ve indicated that they cannot come. She’s being a drama queen.

Apologize for the oversight and indicate that you absolutely want her there, but felt like you were pressuring her to come even though she said finances were tight. Then send an invitation and move on. Hopefully she’ll move on, too.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah, you probably should have sent her one.  So many things can change and she may be able to come.  So while she is being a huge drama queen, I would apologize for the misunderstanding and send her an invite and hope it blows over (since I don’t think there’s much else you can do).  Does she think she’ll be able to come now?

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@RunsWithBears:  This.

I can’t stand when people broadcast their hurt feelings all over Facebook, but at the same time, you discussed the wedding with her, so she was probably expecting the invitation.  Definitely apologize, mention how much you’d love her there, but that you understand about the travel costs and all of that, and tell her you never intended to hurt her feelings!

Post # 7
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5549 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Wow. Are we back in high school? While yes, it might have been nice to send her one, she told you she couldn’t come! And then if you send invites to people you know can’t come, people feel obligated to send a present and then people talk bad because you are ‘gift grabby” so you can’t win. 

Post # 9
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I find it ridiculous that she acted that way about hurt feelings and is still not able come. Hope it blows over.

Post # 10
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2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Eek… yeah, she is waaay over reacting.  I mean, I don’t blame her for being a little hurt, but posting all over FB is a bit much.  Sounds like you’ve done all you can, hopefully it all blows over.

Post # 11
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

While her reaction is over the top, I agree that you should have sent her an invitation. 

Post # 12
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

*big sigh* I so hate it when people sub post on Facebook…you know they are talking about you but others dont….ugh.  

Back to the subject…I do understand that you forgot though. Shoulda sent her one. Apologize and I think she needs to offer up an apology too for being a queen.

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