Post # 1
I was married 2 years ago and my day was blissful but if i could do a redo…. I would. Our finances at the time were low- well mine were. My husband has always made a great living but just wouldnt cough up too much dough because he thought my parents should. They helped us with very little and now that my sister is getting married she gets all the bells and whistles. I feel cheated and hurt and even bad for resentig my parents and husband. Im happy that she gets her dream wedding but i just cant help but wonder why they wouldnt do the same for me. How to get over it?
Post # 3
Boy that is a hard one and I think it is completely natural to feel the way you do. Did your parents assume that since your Fi makes good money that he would pay for the wedding. Were they having financial problems when your wedding was being planned? All I can say is to chalk it up to the fact that life is rarely fair and to brood about it will only hurt YOU and drive you mad. Try not to compare and if it still really bothers you – go ask your parents why.
Post # 4
So sorry for you. I think your feelings are justified. I would feel terrible, unloved, and yes, jealous. Yous could get into details and confront your parents asking them why they did not help you but It might just stir up confrontation. Sadly, the past is in the past and you’d feel better just focusing on enjoying your sister’s wedding. Feel Better. Treat yourself to something nice…it always makes me feel better!
Post # 5
I find it a little crummy that he would expect your parents to pay for HIS (and your) wedding, rather than coughing up the dough to give you the wedding you want. Thoug I probably would have brought this up during the planning, rather than now. I just find the idea that the bride’s parents have to pay to be outdated, especially in this day where people are waiting longer to get married and are already making a good living (as was the case with your husband).
Try to be happy for your sister. If you have a good life and are happily married, that’s the most important thing now.