Post # 1
Wow… what a blow tonight. My fiance and I are six months out from our wedding and I can’t be more excited. But tonight we were over at my parents for dinner and I needed to try my dress on to make sure my undergarments fit alright. While I had my dress on, I had an idea to ask my sister to come take a look at it. Keep in mind, her and I haven’t spoken in 2 1/2 years and I continue to always try to make peace. I even invited to to be in the wedding party & her response was “i’ll think about it”. She didn’t have the nerve to say “no” in front of my mom and she has still has yet to say “no” to me. I did end up hearing through my matron of honor that she said “n”o. So anyways… Before my mom went downstairs to get my sister, she warned me me about what my sister was going to say/do/act and I still said yes, ask her to come up. Well, I was shocked, she did come up… she looked at me… and she just stared, I said “well?” And her response… I don’t like the thing around your waist. That’s all she had to say and she walked away. So here I sit and just feel heartbroken that my own sister couldn’t even say that I looked pretty. How can family be so cruel sometimes? My family is telling me I have to invite her to the wedding and I really don’t want to… All that is going to do, is make me depressed on my day. I’ll see her sitting in the corner being all grumpy and that will just make me upset. Ugh… I don’t know what to do. I do really like my dress and my mom even cried as soon as I put it on. In addition, over the past six months, I have lost 25 pounds, so I feel even better in my dress. Sorry, just had to vent for a few minutes and I feel slightly better. Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
I love your dress. You look amazing. I said this earlier to someone else, but you really won’t even notice her on your day. You will just be so focused on your now DH that what other people are doing wont even cross your mind. I really only remember when people came up to us. Don’t let her spoil your day. It’s not about that.
Post # 4
First, I LOVE the thing around your waist! Your dress is amazing.
I know it’s so hard but please don’t let her get you down. I actually feel sorry for people like your sister because they don’t know the awesome joy of loving other people and being loved.
As much as you might be seeking her approval, I think you need to let that go. Sometimes giving up on our expectations of people is the key because when you don’t expect anything from them, they can no longer let you down!! I would sit her down and talk to her about the wedding party situation. Tell her that you’ve heard she is not able to be in it, pretend to be understanding and then move on. Making drama or calling her out is only going to create more issues for yourself and you don’t need that right now.
But I would have to say you do really need to invite her to the wedding. Yes she sucks now and that might be the case forever, BUT on the off chance that you become closer years down the line, you don’t want to always regret not at least giving her the opportunity to come to the wedding!!
Try to give yourself a night to be upset about this, talk to her bluntly and move forward. I’m sure you have a wonderful FI who can be there for your right now as well. Lean on him and your mom. Best wishes!
Post # 5
I totally agree with mwitter80 And you do look fantastic in that dress!!!!
You’ve done your part… now comes the hardest part and that is let your sister keep her own junk. If she wants to be ugly, or upset, then that’s on her NOT you.
And really.. on your big day you’re going to be so overcome with happiness with your new DH that you really won’t notice… Just keep being kind hearted and don’t let the way she acts effect you (I know easier said then done BUT it is possible) 😉
Post # 6
and I totally 2nd what she said!
Post # 7
first of all your dress is beautiful!!!!! secondly, although she is your sister and you want her approval, some people will never be happy for others. she is obviously unhappy in her own life and wants to make everyone around you miserble. my suggestion, stop trying to mend something that is obviously not going to be fixed anything time soon and put in in God hands. Im sending you lots of hugs!!!
Post # 7
You look fantastic!
I’m sorry to hear that your sister couldn’t say those words. I’ve had my sister do some not so nice things since I’ve been engaged, and I know it can hurt. 🙁
Post # 8
You look beautiful, and though your sister obviously has a callous streak, Im glad to see you are still trying to reach out to her- that says a lot about you dear.
Post # 9
You look fantastic. Kick your sister to the curb for the wedding. I don’t say that lightly, I won’t be inviting almost half my family including my father. I know how bad families can be. You shouldn’t have to put up with her toxicity simply due to some shared DNA.
Post # 10
I think you look gorgeous!
Post # 11
Thanks ladies, you are all making me feel better 🙂 I knew I had a place to go.
I’m sorry to hear that ssparban – I completely understand how you feel. It’s just rediculous and why familes just can’t just be happy for us.
My family all thinks that it is just a pure jeliousy thing. As everyone else in my family loves him and she is the only one with the problem. She has even had the nerve to go to my matron (who is my cousin/my second sister to me) and say that my fiance doesn’t deserve me, he degrades me and that I can do so much better.
The man I’m about to marry is FAR from that. We met in March 2008, I broke/dislocated my leg when we were out hiking in September 2008. He has been with me for all three of my surgeries and has never once walked away on me. He takes care of me so well. On May 19, was my third surgery and now we are officially living together and I can’t ask for a better man to take care of me. He has to do so much, as I am unable to walk on my foot for the next 3 1/2 months. If anyone besides me is ready to be done with these crutches, it is him, lol. I can never repay him for all that he has done and will continue to do for me. As we have both been warned by the doctor that I will probably have to have surgery again in five to ten years… Something to look forward to, lol.
Thanks again for lifting my spirits.
Post # 12
Ugh! What a terribly bitchy thing to say…she sounds awful I’m sorry she hurt your feelings. You look wonderful in that dress andI LIKE the thing around your waist. You look so happy in that picture & you look beautiful. I say don’t invite her – this is a special day for you and she sounds like the type who would try to ruin that.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry about your sister, people can be so cruel! It seems like some people are born without any kind of metal borderline, hey? All I can say is, it’s your wedding, so do what you want! I understand it’s hard but if you don’t want something then don’t have it.
Btw, I absolutly adore your dress, it amazing! And it suite you 10000% 🙂 You look stunning in it!!!