(Closed) Hurtful Bridesmaids

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m not that great at advice, but in my case, I just don’t really share that many details for fear that people will be too critical.  I like what I have done so far with the wedding planning and I know that on the actual day, people won’t be as critical or that it will look so much better when they see everything together then trying to explain how other details may enhance whatever I’m working on at the moment.  I do realize that by not sharing these details, I risk actually getting opinions on something that I may need to change, but it has helped me keep my stress levels down about everything, so I am just doing it my way!

In regards to your hair/makeup trial, I think that if everyone else loved it, you should disregard what your 2 BMs said.  They were harsh and had no reason to be, especially since you didn’t ask for their opinion.  I would try to forget them and move on.  They will stand with you on your day, but they don’t need to be involved any more than that if they aren’t going to support you in other ways.

Post # 4
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

They are totally jealous of you- and are being catty and spiteful. Don’t listen to their criticisms. You know you look great.

Post # 6
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Maybe if they are not used to seeing you wearing a lot of makeup or with your hair up, it was weird to them to see you looking different than you usually look. They probably do not understand that wedding makeup (which will be photographed) is different from every day makeup. You have to wear more because it is meant to be photographed. As for your hair, you said yourself you usually wear it down so maybe that is what they found strange about it.

Regardless, they should have just been supportive, but maybe this is why they both said something.

Post # 7
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

If you like it thats what matters! Jealousy is pretty major during wedding planning unfortunately! I also agree with pp, I try not to share to many details, because my fiance and I like the details and plans, and we don’t want negativity to hinder us!

Post # 8
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@lindz629: It does suck, but they are projecting their own issues, it has nothing to do with how you look- I am sure that your hair and makeup were great.

Post # 9
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you like it and are satisfied with it, then why ask for more opinions?  It definitely sounds like your bridesmaids could have been less harsh.  Try to keep in mind though that not everyone agrees on what is the best “look”.

I personally do not want to go heavy on make up for my wedding day.  I normally do not wear gobs of it, so it is important to me to look like myself on the big day. 

It makes me sad that you feel like you won’t be friends with these girls beyond the big day. Can you maybe try talking to them about being a little more aware of your feelings during this mega-stressful time? Frown

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