(Closed) Hurtful comments–how to deal with them?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My best guess? You were getting attention and she was jealous. Or she’s just a bad person.

Post # 4
46256 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I always remember Dear Abby’s suggestion re hwo to respond to comments like that.

” Why would you say something like that to me?”

Throw the ball back in her court. 

If the comment came from someone you cared about, it would be understandable, but she is not the type of person who should be able to cause you pain.

Post # 5
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

She sounds revolting.  What terrible things to say.  I”m sorry you had to deal with that 🙁  I second PP’s suggested that she couldn’t stand the attention you were getting. 

Post # 6
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Some ppl just don’t know how to keep things to themselves.  I’m 42 and just got married last year. That’s just the way it goes sometimes. 

When you do decide to talk to her, I would let her know that her comments were hurtful.  Love knows nothing about age nor does motherhood.  Now most ppl think when your in your 40s your too old ,but honestly women were having babies in their 40’s w/out fertility treatments.  Yes, it may have been a smaller % but Nature has Her way. 

There’s a group of ladies 40+ on the TTC boards.  Reach out to a wonderful group of ladies when you do begin the process. 


Post # 7
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

She’s jealous of you maybe?  I really don’t know why.  Don’t be stress over it though.  You’re getting married and you should be happy :-).

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