Post # 1
I had my bridal shower this past weekend, and it was understood that my aunt and one of my fiance’s aunts would be in charge of putting it together. I thanked each and every guest who came, and have never felt so grateful before, to have so many family members and friends around us. I admit it was a hectic day, and behind the scenes another aunt of my fiance’s was working on making our shower amazing. Apparently, when I thanked everyone for coming, I personally thanked our two aunts for their hard work, but then went over to my fiance’s other aunt and told her thank you for everything. I told her then because I had a “bridal brain fart”, and just noticed how much she had helped as well. Maybe she felt my thanks to the other two aunts was weightier, because she sent a fuming email to my Future Mother-In-Law, telling her what an ungrateful person I am, and how hurt that I didn’t acknowledge her hard work. My Future Mother-In-Law tells my dear Fiance about this email on the phone today, and I broke down crying. I’m upset that this aunt couldn’t confront me, and has to involve my sweet Future Mother-In-Law. I actually sent this aunt a message to tell her thank you again, and will send her a thank you note, but I want her to know that what she said behind my back hurt me. What would you do if you were in this situation? I’m a very grateful person, and this is eating at me.
Post # 3
I think sending a thank you would be a nice gesture but after the bridal shower I just helped throw for my bestie a few weeks ago, things were so hectic I know she and I both weren’t totally with it. As much fun as it is, it can be stressful and she may have simply misinterpreted things. I would just do exactly what you are planning and know that you did your best to make it clear how much you appreciated her. Its up to her to accept or not…weddings can be stressful, let it go! Keep being grateful, you can’t please everybody all the time! 🙂 Good luck !
Post # 4
@nicki121986 Not being able to please everyone is so true! The ball will be in her court, once I send thank you cards. As I was leaving the shower, an older member of my fiance’s family made the comment that her marriage of 60 years wouldn’t be a reality for the two of us, FH and I, because “young people all divorce”…Hello, my Fiance and I have been friends for years, and are both in our mid 20s. Hmm, I’m guessing this family member had to get married even younger than the two of us, to have weathered her 60 years of marriage! I love most of the family, but it certainly has it’s nuts :-p oh my! Thanks for yor advice!
Post # 5
You’re welcome! Don’t worry about the “too young” stereotype. My grandmother and great grandmother both told me I was too young. I will be 24. My great grandma was 15 and grandma 16…. things have changed. I told them I’ve known him since I was 10 years old, he’s my soul mate and I love and respect their opinions but I’m marrying my soul mate. They have been nothing but supportive since.
i’ve found sometimes by letting people know you are serious they feel less stressed for you…
ANyways, be haooy you are marrying the man of your dreams, nothing else matters! 🙂