Post # 1
Would you feel strange if you werent aware your DH used SnapChat, but found out through one of his coworkers?
Full context…I have a SnapChat account that I dont even log into, I dont really understand and I dont really like the idea of taking pics or videos of things and sending it to people. Buts that me.
My DH is on a work trip out of state. I dont hear from him too often because hes working..much less get any pics of his travels. Our female neighbor, who is also a coworker of DH, asked me today if I had seen DH’s snaps from the work trip hes on. I go um..no? I didnt know he used SnapChat? She goes “oh hes not on that much because sometimes he posts pictures and videos.” I asked what he posted and she showed me, it was like 6 different pics and videos of cars, houses..some carnival they stopped at..random things.
??? Not sure what to think here or if its a none issue. I didnt know he used it and I feel kind of hurt that and a little out of touch with him. We are friends on all other social media sites and he hasnt posted anything on there.
Post # 2
I would be weirded out by it because I actively use Snapchat. But since you don’t, he probably never felt the need to mention it. It would only be an issue to me if he refused to be your “friend” on it or something. Or if you asked to add him as a friend and he lied and said he didn’t have an account.
Post # 3
Mls1988 : Do you think he is being secretive about it?
Just tell him you heard he had a Snapchat (in a non-confrontation way) and see what he says.
Keep us posted.
Post # 4
I would feel weird about this too, but i think maybe it has to do with you not using it? I use it and would feel really weird about my SO not having me as a friend on there. I would just mention in a non-confrontational way that you heard he had some pics posted from his trip and maybe ask him to show you how to use the app so you can see that stuff too. Explain that it made you feel out of touch with him, thats a reasonable explanation.
Post # 5
Mls1988 : I don’t really understand where you’re coming from, should he tell you every time he signs up to a new type of social media? Should he ask permission before downloading twitter?
Post # 6
It’s a bit odd but not a huge deal. Just mention that you heard he has one. It sounds like pretty innocent things he’s posting.
Post # 7
This is a no brainer. Friend him on SC. Don’t ask, just do. If he refuses, then you have trouble. If he friends you, you’re not out of the loop.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris
Weird but not a huge deal.
Post # 9
I think it’s completely innocent. He’s posting to his Snapchat story, not sending snaps directly to people (from what you’ve heard). Snapchat is different from FB in that the story is there and viewable to all friends and then gone. People can’t like the stories or comment on them, so it’s less interactive in that way. If you’re friends with him on Snapchat, as I’m assuming you are, just log in and you can see all those snaps yourself on your main stories page.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2016 - Lola's Trailer Park
So, you’re worried he’s using it to flirt with women or what? Thats really the only reason I can think for you to be upset/concerned about this.
Post # 11
It’s maybe a little odd that he’s never mentioned it but I don’t think it’s suspicious. It sounds like he doesn’t use it often and you don’t use it at all so it’s not really that surprising that it’s never come up.
My husband is not a big social media user. He has a Facebook account that he never logs into and that’s it. I use several different forms of social media and I don’t discuss it with him. I didn’t tell him when I made my Instagram or Twitter accounts because it didn’t seem important at all and I know he doesn’t use them so it’s not like I would ask him to follow me. It has been brought up randomly in conversation (he asks what I’m doing on my phone or I show him something someone posted) but it could just as easily not have come up.
Post # 12
beepbopboopitydo : agreed! Just friend him and snap a few of your own 🙂 Total non issue.
Post # 13
I have snapchat, my DH doesn’t. He says that I need to grow up cause snapchat is ‘for young people’ haha! But in all seriousness, he knows you don’t use it so didn’t bother to send you anything. I don’t think his intention was to purposely exclude you.
FWIW I like snapchat cause the pics/videos don’t eat up loads of memory on my phone
Post # 14
My husband is way more into social media than me (he works in a field where he uses it a lot), so he tends to sign up for social media accounts without telling me.
It’s probably something stupid like “you’re not on there and I didn’t want you to sign up just for me”.
Post # 15
my husband has snapchat,i don’t. i know he occassionally does those silly faces with our son. but i have no idea what else he does. it doesn’t bother me.