Post # 1
Usually you hear stories about the girls having major baby fever and convincing the husband it’s time. Well, ladies, my husband has baby fever. Bad.
Last year, we were out to dinner and he told me he wanted me to go off the pill and “see what happens”. I said no way, pal, I have a wedding gown to fit into! So, the closer the wedding got, the more we discussed it. About 6 months before the wedding, we decided it was time for me to go off the pill to let my body get back to normal. A few months ago, we were watching the show “Parenthood” and he says to me “this show makes me want to have kids so bad!”. Last night, he was at the pool at our apartment complex, watching all the kids (in a non-creepy manner ) and he says to me “God, I have to quit watching these kids. I want a baby!”.
How often does this happen? It’s so rare that the guy wants a kid first!
For the record – I’m ready too. It’s just crazy to me that he’s more ready than me
Post # 3
Wow, that is a little crazy… but I’m not gonna lie, I’m a bit jealous!! I have mild baby fever, not bad, but I would like to start trying next year. DH thinks we should wait 2-3 more years. Which makes me sad. 🙁
Soooo cute that he wants one just as badly as you do, though! I know I would be downright giddy if my DH acted like that! 🙂
Post # 4
My FI was ready to have kids before I was and he is still on the baby bandwagon but now I have joined him 😉
I think it depends on the person!
I also think it happens more often then we think. Guys are expressive to their SOs but often to no one else – they don’t go around telling everyone they want a baby like women do!
Post # 5
Haha, that’s great! My husband did the same thing leading up to the wedding. Baby, baby, baby. This is from a guy that when I first met him said he didn’t know if he wanted kids. I convinced him to let wedding happen and us have some calm period before that. I have no idea what happened to him but he loves the idea and is ready to be a daddy. I just wanted to enjoy marriage for a year before feeling bloated for 9 months.
Post # 6
He is so funny about it. I think it’s so adorable when you see a guy who genuinely wants one.
Post # 7
I HAD baby fever, but it kind of went away the closer we got and the more I started stressing about it all. It’s back now, as hubs and I have a plan. The interesting thing is that silently hubs has had baby fever for well over a year. He’s ready for kids yesterday, but hasn’t really said to much. He, who is usually very into planning finances and life changes, has even said “it’ll work out, lets just do it” when i ask about paying for day care, etc… It’s not typical for me to be more concerned about $$ than he is.
I really, really love that he is so excited to be a father. I already know that seeing him with our child will make me so much more in love with him than I am now, which seems impossible!
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s that unusual. I have two guy friends (one married, one single) that have deeply desired children for years. Unfortunately for the married friend, his wife doesn’t want children. They married young before they knew what they wanted and it has become a big divide in their relationship. And the single guy keeps creeping out potential girlfriends with all the baby talk!
Post # 9
My fiance gets baby fever on occasion. I get baby nausea. It stresses me out a little, because I’ve made it very clear that if he wants to be with me, he needs to get used to a future without children. When we’ve discussed it more seriously than “babies cute!” “babies noo!” and he realizes that while he thinks they’re cute, he has absolutely no interest in doing the work required to raise them. He’d want to be a very traditional, works-all-day, distant father. Considering I REALLY don’t want kids, I need WAY more than that from a partner to even consider changing my mind.
It is adorable, but sometimes it makes me feel like maybe I am taking something away from him.
Post # 10
Ha ha!! I thought I was the only one!! My FI talks about this all. the. time. I hope to squeeze a year of childless wedding bliss in before I get preggie…but I should’ve seen this coming, he’s one of 15 (!!!) siblings….thank God he only wants 3….
Post # 12
@tweds: That is crazy!!
My husband and I had talked about waiting a year after we were married before we starting talking about having kids. Well he made it about 7 months before he was ready! I got on board pretty quickly but he was definitely ahead of me. At the time he had been laid off, so we waited a few months until he got a job. Literally the day he got the offer, the first thing he said was that now we could start trying!! too cute.
Post # 13
FI went thru a period of this last winter. his parents are older, all of his friends got married young and have at least 2 kids… so i can def understand why. but on the flip side, FI is an only child who likes having my undivided attention. and i told him unless he’s willing to give that up right now, babies WILL NOT be happening… (and that’s not even counting my law school classes at night!) 😛
i think both of us are now in our “realistic” mindsets, that we want to be “as prepared” as possible, even know no one ever gets “ready” enough to have children… we both want to get married in 3 months, finish our degrees (his masters in 2012, my JD in 2013) and THEN figure out when timing will be best. 🙂
Post # 14
Hahaha I thought thought it was just my fiance. He is so ready to have babies and a family. When we were trying to choose a photographer for the wedding, I did all the research and I showed him all my top choices. He was completely disinterested until one day when I found a picture of a newborn on a photographer’s website. Then he was hooked! He only wanted to see photographers who did newborn portraits. If there was no baby, he had no opinion. But throw in a baby portrait and he could tell you which photographers he liked and which ones he didn’t. He loves a good picture of a sleeping newborn. Ridiculous.
Post # 15
Ha… I said the same thing to my FI… “Not until I don’t have to worry about fitting into my dress!!”
He already has 4-year-old from a previous relationship and really wants more. He’s an awwwesome father though, so I’m ready too. I’ve had some medical issues, so I’m really hoping we don’t have too much trouble.