Post # 1
So talking to a co-worker whose wife is pregnant he says: I won’t be in the delivery room because it would ruin our sex life!
I was surprised/shocked but reading online it is a common thing for guys to freak out and lose desire after seing the wife give birth…
I asked DH and he agreed and said he would not like it either…
what is your opinion? Does. Your DH plan to be there??????
Post # 3
Um. Being there is not optional, IMO.
My husband used to be a nurse, so he is unflappable. Plus, I nursed him through dysentary in rural Cambodia. Dude is going to be in the delivery room.
I wish some guys were capable of putting some things ahead of their fear of loss of sexual performance. Sheesh.
Post # 4
@Newbeg: My bff’s bf wasnt there, but mostly because he didnt want to part of it, nothing to do with the whole sex/attraction thing and she was okay with it. Me? no way…he better be there, if he got me in that mess (well we both did cause we want) he better be there, but i did tell him that when it comes to that time, just not to look lol (if it’s even possible right?)
Post # 5
Yeah…he doesn’t have that choice. He doens’t have to watch but he will be by my side holding my hand. And he is perfectly okay with that. He wouldn’t miss that experience for the world.
Post # 6
My DH told me yesterday he’s going to watch the whole thing. I was telling him at our birthing class they are going to show videos and he said “oh no” (as a joke). I told him he could turn away if he wanted and he was like no way, I’m watching our baby be born so I don’t care. I was like are you sure? I might poop everywhere.. LOL he still said he didn’t care.
I guess it depends on the guy. It definitely won’t ruin our sex life. Having a newborn will take care of that anyways 😉 haha.
Post # 7
Ive heard of men being scarred after seeing the actual birth, but from what I understand as long as they don’t actually “look” at it, it’s a lot less weird for them. I want my DH there when I give birth, but if he wants to stay up by my head and not actually witness the baby coming out, that is totally fine by me, and I would actually prefer it that way, honestly
Post # 8
I’m not pregnant, but you can bet your bottom dollar my SO would be in that room. I’m not going through that alone!!
Post # 9
My opinion is I will tell him where to go and he will go to there
Post # 10
Ridiculous and very immature. I would be very concerned (and disgusted) if my husband thought this way. He doesn’t have to be down by your feet, he can cheer you on from your head 🙂
Post # 11
That is ridiculous. His wife is birthing his child and he can’t be bothered to be in the delivery room supporting her? Um, no. Man up.
Post # 12
I dont want him seeing anything down there, but I want him by myside.
Post # 13
I’m sure DH doesn’t want to watch it come out, but he is definitely planning on being in there with me! I would be upset if he didn’t want to be! He’s going to be my coach!
Post # 14
I’d be so upset if dh wasn’t in the room when our babies were born. It’s such an emotional, intense experience I couldn’t imagin doing it without him. Both of mine were csections, he peeked over the curtain once, but he is pretty good at not imagining me with my belly cut open now.
Post # 15
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My husband doesn’t want to be there because he’s terrified (sincerely) of the birthing process, and he’s beyond scared that something will happen to me. He wants the doctor to have the space she needs to make sure we’re okay.
I say he doesn’t have a say in the matter, his ass will by right next to my head, holding my hand whenever the time comes.
Post # 16
My DH would die if he couldn’t be in the room. I told him he doesn’t have to watch it come out, but I have a sneaking suspicion that he will want to watch anyway. He will be my coach AND my advocate.