(Closed) Husband giving the silent treatment- is this normal?!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

A whole week of silent treatment? That is so childish! I know sometimes we need our space and just figure it’s best not to talk to each other until we are less upset about the situation but we have never gone a full day much less a week of not talking. Very odd…

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That is a sign of immaturity, possibly also a power and control issue. Not talking for a week is much different than one partner saying to another” I need some time to calm down before I talk with you about that. Can we please talk about this tomorrow?”

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

that seems super weird to me too. hubby and i have never done that. we’ve gotten upset at each other, of course, but we usually resolve it and talk it out within a couple hours. the closest thing to that i can think of is if we’re fighting and one of us has to go somewhere; i’ve stormed out before, but usually it’s because i need to meet someone or go to class or work or something. and then one of us contacts the other by phone or email or something to apologize, either for being too worked up about it or for whatever started the disagreement in the first place 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Its just immature. When I am really angry in the heat of the moment I still stop talking to FI but I can’t go an entire day much less a week! And I thought that was a chick thing anyway.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

The longest DH and I have gone not talking to eachother is about 3 hours. That seems crazy and unhealthy to me.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My fiance and I might not speak for about 20 to 30 minutes in the heat of an argument until we cool down, but we definitely don’t go days or a week without speaking.  That would be crazy.  I can’t say that I would tolerate it.  It would make me nervous about the state of our relationship.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sometimes I get mad and feel like giving the silent treatment , but I can’t even last an hour let alone a week! Same with my fiance. I think a week is weird….and it means that there is a lot of immaturity going on there. IMO, that could really hurt a relationship.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with PP, FI and I have gone a couple hours, but we both know it’s just to cool off and we’ll talk about it soon. We definitely don’t go days, and especially not weeks…

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Week is a bit long but I don’t think the silent treatement is all that un common. You know the whole “if you don’t have anything nice to sway don’t say anything at all?” well it’s possible the men wouldn’t have said something nice so they just keep it shut.

I must say though, I wouldn’t be all the surprised if they were exaggerating the the ENTIRE week. A few days, sure. But 7 full days? Either way, is it abnormal I don’t think so, but 7 days is a bit long. He must have been REALLY pissed and therefore your gf’s very out of line…

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That’s beyond weird! DH used to have a hard time opening up to me because he thought it was easier to just not fight about something than to give his opinion and work it out.  He’s come a long way and we talk everything through now! Silent treatment would not fly with me!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

Wow….a week?!?!  I don’t think I could hold my emotions in for that long!  I admit to giving my hubby the silent treatment for a few hours, but couldn’t stand the awkwardness of it…so I “spilled the beans” and we ended up talking it out. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

that takes a lot of determination and commitment to stay silent for a week…maybe they should put that energy into something that will make their relationship with their wives grow. I don’t really think that’s normal. I could understand a few minutes just to cool off…but a week is going way too far!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh wow…a week?  My husband isn’t the silent type of guy.  He would much prefer to hash things out and move on.  Me on the other hand, I’ve been guilty of giving the silent treatment before, but only for about an hour or two when I’ve cooled down enough to talk about things rationally.

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