Post # 1
So my husband has a work trip coming up in a few months. He is flying with his boss and staff to take some work courses. He says his boss is paying for him and the rest of the staff to go. They will all be staying about 4 days and all staying at the same hotel. I asked my husband if I could go but he said “well maybe but your trip won’t be paid for, my boss is only paying for staff”
I’m not sure how to feel about this. I think the fact that they will all be at the same hotel and I’m sure a lot will be sharing rooms doesn’t make me feel good. What would you do?
Post # 2
I would not give it anymore thought. Your husband is going on a work trip not some vacation without you.
Post # 3
This all sounds very normal. Spouses are not paid for by the company. And companies generally book one hotel for the entire group traveling.
Do you have concerns about him cheating or the people he will be with? Of the business trips I have been on as well as the one husband has been, people have remained professional even at the hotel and the only “room swappers” were the single ones.
Post # 4
Out of town business trips are a fairly normal thing. Both my DH and I have been on multiple trips without the other, it’s one of those things you sometimes have to do. If your husband doesn’t give you any reason not to trust him it shouldn’t be an issue.
Post # 5
What else would you do? Tell him he can’t go on a work trip?
I travel weekly on business. My husband has never ever once tagged along (nor would that be appropriate) or had an issue. Of course everyone stays at the same hotel. It would make no sense to spread everyone out around the city and make it more difficult to connect.
Is his boss personally paying for the trip? That’s the only weird thing. My trips are all paid for by the company, not my boss’s personal finances.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I travel a lot for work (like probably 80-100 days a year) and I’ve NEVER had to share a room with a coworker. Just so you know.
And yeah, work is work, regardless of whether it’s at home or on a trip. It’s not a vacation. Just let him go do his thing and have fun together when he gets back.
Post # 7
belize : What would you do?
I suggest you work on your own insecurities. Travel is a normal part of many jobs, if not on a regular basis, then for courses, conventions or shows.
Post # 8
Most of the time DH or I have been on work trips, each person gets his/her room. There’s no reason for his company to pay for you to go too. The purpose is work, not pleasure. Are you worried that he’s doing bad things? That’s an issue that goes beyond the work trip.
Post # 9
It’s work. It’s a work trip. Do you want to go to work with him every day? This is no different.
Post # 10
lolot : +1. Neither FI nor I have ever had to share rooms on business trips.
I don’t really get the concern, OP. But based on your other thread, you might have some trust issues with your husband. It’s that you need to work through — and for the love of god DO NOT (a) insist on tagging along to keep an eye on him or (b) not let him go.
Post # 11
belize : I think you are being a bit insecure sounds like. Many people travel for work and usually the company only pays for 1 hotel and employees stay in said hotel and usually spouses do not come along. Basically working without being at actual work. I wouldn’t worry about it at all
Post # 12
He shouldn’t have to share a room with co-workers. That’s an HR disaster waiting to happen.
Post # 13
My husband travels quarterly for work, usually for about 4 days. It’s all work related- he never shares a hotel room with a coworker, and he works for most of the time he’s gone. Sure he goes out to dinner with his co workers, but there is no reason to be weird about that.
And why would you expect the company to pay for you to go? You aren’t going to take his work courses…why would you even want to go? Sounds pretty boring.
Post # 14
Are you sure he has to share a room? That’s not standard protocol for most businesses.
I also travel alot for work. About 3 nights a week away. What makes you feel uncomfortable about your husband going? Time apart can be healthy
Post # 15
You need to loosen the leash.