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Oh my goodness I am so so sorry. That is an extremely difficult situation to have to deal with. I hope that he is able to find work as soon as possible and that you are able to work through this together and support each other as best as you can.
Hugs!!
I am so sorry about this. Something similar happened to my brother. He was fired, but they couldn't give him a reason why (he was a waiter at the time). He was down about it, but eventually he found another job and became a bar tender. Then he was the head bar tender/manager. Now he is a GM of a restaurant. I guess it was a blessing in disguise because he has a better job now.
I hope everything works out for your husband and that he finds another job soon.
@cbee: Awe hun, I'm so sorry to hear this. Unemployment for one person adds tremendous stress to any relationship but it seems compounded since both of you are going through it. Do you have any leads for new jobs? I know it's not easy to find employment right now.
@cbee: The same exact thing just happened to my fiance - twelve days before our wedding. He was accused of something he didn't do and let go because of it. He's fighting tooth and nail, but it doesn't look promising. You and your family will definitely be in my prayers. Best of luck!
@cbee: OMG I'm so sorry and amazingly surprised by how similar are stories are!!!
DH lost his job in October, we weren't married yet happening in 2 months (obviously no times a good time but right before the wedding almost killed me). They accused him of stealing a gift certificate for glasses (he was a DM for lens crafters, we didn't need $100 gc for glasses). He couldn't collect unemployment either because technically he stole even though they couldn't prove it, and he was denied. 3 weeks later they fired another long term employee for not locking the back door and then 2 weeks after that they shut down one store and combined 2 of them. They just didn't want to have to lay them off and pay severence so they made up a bunch of stuff about them.
@PitBulLover: Thanks PBL, it is really stressful! But we have gotten through worse, I think :)
@trugem: Thanks tru, I think you are right, it will work out in the long run because he is graduating, but it is so hard in the short run!
@MrsStrz: He actually has an interview in his field today, to be an assistant photographer, so things are already looking up. It has been two weeks of hell though.
Thank you so much for your kind words, it really helps!
((hugs)) So sorry you two are being put in this situation. It's definitley a hard one. Just remember to pull together in this time and that things WILL get worked out. Money always comes.. do not let yourself get overwhelmed by the current circumstance and divide you two... you need each other more now than ever! This season WILL pass
I will definitely be praying for you that he can have favor that is on overflow in this season of searching for new work and that the place he gets will cherish his work and heart to be diligent and that he will be better off than where he was! And that you two will be stronger because of it and that nothing that comes against ya'll will succeed in dividing you!
Don't let anything you see (list of bills) or don't see (money) get you overwhelmed... you two CAN work it out!
((hugs))
That is HORRIBLE! What a terrible ordeal. I'm so sorry you guys are going through this right now!!!!
That company sounds like a piece of work. I know it doesn't feel like it now - but I think you'll look back on it and hopefully see it as a blessing to be rid of such an unethical place that would treat their employees like that. DISGUSTING.
Hugs to you and I hope he gets good news both from unemployment and a new job!!
@mwitter80: OMG! That is so similar! Exactly what happened to him! What evil, these companies! I can only imagine how stressful that would be before the wedding. $100 gc! Ridiculous!
@erinleigh1: Thanks sweetheart, you'll be in our thoughts as well! Hopefully you have the support of family or friends (moral support) now that your wedding is approaching. That is so stressful!
This is so hard, I'm very sorry for you! Also I would suggest continuing to appeal the unemployment. Typically if you apply or appeal 3 times you will get approved for unemployment. Good luck!
Also, edited to say: I work in employment services so we deal with EDD a lot!
I'm so sorry, that really sucks!
Are there any law bees out there? Something about this whole thing of firing people because of fall accusations just seems so illegal and wrong. could anyone weigh in?
@amnystik: Thank you so much! I definitely think that this will bring us closer, thank you for the wonderful advice. It is easy to get overwhelmed. Life is up and down, and I think that if we can get through this we can get through anything.
@oracle: So true! The place is SO unethical and that has bothered him for a long time. I know this will be good in the long wrong. I ate junk food for the entire first week I was so stressed, but I am doing much better now. Thanks for the good feelin's!
I would advise him to file for unemployment and then appeal it to the hearing level if denied. It can't hurt.
I work in HR and I have tons of employees file for unemployment after being an involuntary termination...some win, some loose....you never know.
They legally cant fire you for having a short register. They have to provide him with an opportunity to pay it back, and a warning etc.. they would only be able to fire him for that if this was a repetitive thing. I think you guys should look into some type of legal action since they have tried to block his chance of getting unemployment. He should still apply ro unemployment anyway and explain the circustances and lack of proof
@MrsStormy: Thanks, that is good to know about the unemployment. Poor DH is so disgusted with the whole thing, he just wants nothing to do with it- even bothering with the unemployment, but it would help while he is not working (we were living paycheck to paycheck anyway). Plus, they "suspended him" for an entire week- so that was 40 hours he could not get before they even would let him go! I ate so much ice cream, it was horrible!
@ktisthatbees: I know, I agree. Thanks for the support. It makes me want to be an attorney. If only what was good, honest, or true would win out, but unfortunately these companies know exactly what they are doing, and seem to do things in a way that they are not liable :/
That place was the worst! No benefits, raises, overtime, not even a Christmas or New Year's/ Holiday card, no end of the year party. Nothing. It was set up so that you could never make commission.
Well, he is at an interview right now, so fingers crossed! :)
Oh I am so sorry to hear about this! How unfair.
Try to find ways to deal with your stress as best as possible- exercise, yoga, communication, some down time, etc.
I hope the best for you both!! Positive vibes your way.
@Luckygir15: Thanks for the advice, I think I will help him appeal.
@bells: I know. They told him that his register was off, and that it happened twice- on the 7th and 15th, and that he was suspended until they could investigate. So, he was only told about it when he was told he was being suspended. Then they just called him in and told him he was fired (the next week) because he had no explanation. He definitely was not given a chance to pay it back and they provided 0 evidence of any kind.
I would also encourage him to apply for unemployment ASAP. If his claim is rejected - fight it!
@Evie19: Thanks a lot! We have been working out or going for walks in between job searching. The exercise really helps!
@JoJo Bananas: Thanks! We are going to apply for the second week today, even though it is "under review". Thanks for the support!
@cbee: I know, I never used to believe that it could actually change ones mood so much..but it does!
@cbee: Tell him to file for unemployment anyway. If he gets denied, tell him to fight it. Seriously, they will have to prove he did something in order to prevent him from receiving benefits, and since he didn't do it, they can't prove it.
This really sucks, especially in this economy, but it can be done... Oh! I just remembered. Get the book, Thank You for Firing Me by Kitty Martini and Candice Reed. It's a fantastic book. I read it after my temp job ended, and it really made a difference.
Hang in there...
Sending a kind word your way. So sorry to hear that, and hope it all works out with even a better job soon for the both of you.
Did they provide him with any proof that he stole? IF not, he can file a claim with the EEOC for wrongful termination, if they believe it has any merit they will file a charge with his former company and seek some type of compensation for your husband. Just something else to think about as you are seeking unemployment.
Good luck!
oh hon im so sorry and i hope there are better things for him, for both of you soon *hugs*
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Hi bees,
It has been a little while. I am writing for any kind of support, I guess. Maybe I should post this in emotional.
My husband got fired. He was told his numbers were not good enough (he was in sales) in January and he was moved to another department. He really liked it and already knew the computer program that he needed to be trained on and so forth.
But they wouldn't train him on the other duties he was suposed to learn. When his supervisor was suposed to train him, he was sent, instead, to the phones (to help customers, everyone's least favorite job.)
Anyway, then they told him his cash register was off and that they were firing him for this reason. They basically accused him of stealing.
He has worked there for two years. He would never steal (it was $100). He is also very careful, has years of experience handling large amounts of cash and deposits and as a manager. He was also on camera the entire time.
He thinks it was an excuse to get rid of him. He thinks the company is failing. Long story short, I am extremely stressed. Also, I think this was all done in a way so that he could not collect unemployment. I think that is why they did not fire him in the first place, but made the conditions as undesirable as possible so he would quit, and then finally accused him of something they have provided no record of, or proof. They simply said because he has no explanation for the missing $, he must be fired because he violated policy. He cannot explain something he knows nothing about.
Thank you dearly, any one who read this. I guess I just need to vent and get support. We are both as activley seeking employment as we can, but it is a scary time, and the unemployment is still under review.