Husband having all female wedding party?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@otto2008:  I don’t think it’s weird to have mixed male/female bridal parties on either side…but 100% your bridal party being women I think is really between you and your future wife to determine if this is okay or not.  If this is okay, and she’s okay with it, it doesn’t matter what your guests think!

Good Luck!

Post # 4
7230 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never thought of people in a bridal party as anything more than friends or family.

If you were a lesbian couple with an all female bridal party, or a gay couple with an all male BP where does “player” come in??? It doesn’t. As long as your bride is cool with it who cares what others think. 

Post # 5
8389 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@otto2008:  I don’t think it really matters, as long as your bride is okay with your choices (as in she likes the people you chose).  I’m sort of the in the same situation as you, I only tend to have male friends; however, this is mainly due to the fact that I hate doing “girl” activities (shopping, romantic movies, make-up, anything to do with feelings, etc) and enjoy more “guy” activities (i.e. video games, action movies, etc).

Post # 6
1689 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

The last two wedding I’ve been in had guys and girls on both sides. 

I think it’s becoming more common to see either sex on either side.  I don’t see an issue with an all female groomsparty and I doubt your guests will either.  The people coming to your wedding know you and it probably won’t surprise them. 

Definitely have the people you want up there supporting you regardless of gender.  Although, keep in mind, these will be the people planning your bachelor party Smile

Post # 7
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

One of my best female friends married a very good male friend of mine this summer, and the groom’s best man was actually his female best friend/sort of sister. She was called “the best woman” and wore a gray bridesmaid dress to match the men’s gray suits, while we (the bridesmaids) wore green dresses. It was really cute and no one thought anything of it (in fact, most people loved it; there was no one better to stand beside him as he took his wedding vows and everyone who was there knew that). I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your having an all-female wedding party, as long as your bride-to-be is okay with it. That’s really all that matters. If you think you will have people at your wedding who will judge you for it, then they probably don’t really need to be invited. 

Post # 8
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@otto2008:  choose the people who mean the most to you. DH had his sister as the BW (best woman). Nobody cares anymore about it being un-traditional and those who know you will know why you choose the people you did. 

Post # 9
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Choose the people who are most important to you.  My FI also has female best friends and just a few male friends.  We decided to go with no wedding party except for my sister as the Matron of Honor and his sister as his Best Woman.  It was mostly because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not asking them to be in my BP and my FI just isn’t close with a lot of people.

The people at your wedding know you – if they think you’re a player for having your closest friends up there they probably shouldn’t be at your wedding!

Post # 10
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldnt think of you as a player especially on your wedding day! I might pause to think well that’s interesting! But if assume they are close family and friends and that’s just what works for you. 

Post # 11
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’d notice it for sure. Then I’d admire you for doing what you want. 

You really need to talk to your FI though. 

Post # 12
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@otto2008:  I’m gonna be honest, I’d at least think it’s a little odd. But the whole point of having people stand up for you is how you feel about them emotionally, they’re there to show support. And if all your really good friends are female, then what’re you gonna do?

Post # 13
252 posts
Helper bee

@jadlnc:  +1

I think it would be a little odd, just since it really isn’t that common. But odd doesn’t mean wrong or bad, just odd. However, like jadlnc said, if all the people closest to you are women, what are you going to do? Not have ’em stand up to support you? That’s just silly!

Granted, you’ll have to take in to consideration what your FI wants, what these girls would wear (dresses? Tuxedos?) who would pick their attire? As a man you should be forwarned that women can get catty over weddings. Usually the groom’s side just shows up in what they were told to wear, and aren’t a big part of the whole thing… however, if the women on your side are going to be put in a dress, that will take a little more coordination to work out. Who is going to go with them? You? Your FI? Who has the final say?

None of these are reasons NOT to do it, just things to consider. Best of luck!

Post # 14
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

As a guest I wouldn’t view you as a “player” because I assume if you had, for example, been “romantically involved” at one point with these women there is no way in hell your fiancé/wife would allow then to stand up there with you (I know I would be damned before a group of women my DH slept with would be his “groomswomen” lol). I would just think they were really close friends of yours.

Post # 15
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Id think it was neat! I have been a grooms woman and it was a blast. Pick who you’re close with. 

Post # 16
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Have you ever wanted to sleep with them, or in a hypothetical world if no one could ever possibly find out that you slept wth them, would you? If yes, even a little bit, it’s disrespectful to your future wife. Same thing goes if you know of any of tem that had a crush on you at any point yet you still have them up there. Disrespectful.

Personally, I think it’s kind of strange. It would be unsettling to my male FI if I had all men on my side, too. One or two is no big deal, but all women? Hmm. If I saw that at a wedding, I would question if they’re all really close, and have that “sister-like” bond with you.

This is just me personally, by the way!


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