Post # 1
My hubs doesn’t wear his ring to work for safety issues. He usually keeps it in one place and wears it on his days off. The other day he put it in his pocket as he was doing a side job roofing and now he told me he lost it. I feel like he loses everything and if it was important to him he would have found it by now and he hasn’t.
I didn’t yell at him or anything but I feel sad.
I don’t want him to replace it, but he may not find it. Anyone elses’s husband lose their wedding ring??
Post # 3
Losing something precious like a wedding ring is always painful.
But, I suggest you cut him some slack. He can’t wear a ring for safety reasons.
He forgot to take it off at home and put it in his pocket. He lost it and considering your reaction, he was probably afraid to tell you.
The fact that he has been unable to find it does not reflect its’ importance to him at all! It only means he can’t find it.
Sometimes for men or women in these types of jobs, it’s safer if they just give up wearing a ring entirely. I worked 20 years in ER and have seen some pretty gross looking wounds, some involving loss of the digit or permanent loss of use on men who forgot to take their ring off.
His commitment to you is not dependent on whether or not he wears a ring.
Post # 4
People lose things.. I don’t think you should take it as a sign of anything. I knew it was a matter of time before DH misplaces his ring, it’s just his nature. He has “lost” it a few times so far but has been able to recover it. I got him a titanium ring from an Etsy seller that would be easy to replace for that reason 🙂
Post # 5
Aww… I would be super upset but at the same time, I know there’s no point in being upset. It’s not his fault, it was an accident. He didn’t lose it because he doesn’t value it. *hugs* maybe you could get his new ring blessed or something to maybe make it also symbolic? idk.
Post # 6
try not to beat him up about it. i lost my e-ring and i felt (and still feel) awful about it. thank goodness it was insured but i felt like such an idiot. i am sure he feels terrible about it.
Post # 7
Agree with PPs. And if you’re date is correct, you could run out and get him a lovely 1 year anniversary gift to replace it 😉
Post # 8
DH lost his in the Atlantic Ocean a few days ago and he was distraugth. To be honest Im glad it last 5 weeks (my bets where on loosing it within the month). We ordered a bunch of rings off of teambuy that where 9$ so he can loose them all he wants. He is now thinking about getting a ring tattoo for when he is at work or for many of his hobbies but we will buy him a ring for when he gets dressed up.
Post # 9
As the old joke goes, with men and wedding rings, it’s not a question of IF he’ll lose it, but WHEN! So try not to be too upset — he didn’t do it on purpose. Just get another one, preferably not too expensive. Hell, maybe buy a few extra so you have a ready supply of them in case he loses it again I have absolutely no doubt that my husband will lose his ring sometime in the near future. It’s just something I’m prepared to accept!
Post # 10
I lost my wedding ring before our first wedding anniversary. 🙁 It sucks, and I felt really, really bad about it. My husband ended up rebuying the same ring for me about a year ago, and it meant so much to me.
Cut your DH a little slack. He probably feels just as bad about it as you do!
Post # 11
@julies1949: i second this, i know someone who forgot to take his ring off at work (it was a health and safety requirement not to have it but he used to use it at home then take it off for work). well long story short, a machinery/ring related accident means he is now minus one finger. so it makes total sense he doesnt wear it.
its nothing to do with it being important to him, if he cant find it he cant find it. i suggest you get a little box or something he can keep in his pocket (makes it harder to slip through small holes etc) or, he leaves it at home
Post # 12
My hubby is on his 5th ring. We have only been married since 1/1/11!
Once in the California waves- he was body boarding
Once at work in glove- he took the glove off and the ring went with it
Twice in the river tubing!! – but at least this last time it was because he saved me..lol
Ebay is our very good friend for this! I keep buying in replacements at $20 a pop and they are pretty good quality too!
I have gotten to the point that I view the ring as a symbol to the rest of the world “I am married” but it does not symbolise our marriage. We would still be married if he wore no ring at all!
Post # 13
My father never bought my mom an expensive e-ring, he made it and she lost it. He also made their wedding bands. Mom lost it. He made her a replacement and she lost that one. She’s given up wearing her wedding band since then but I think she want through 6 of them. It happens. Of course my father still wears his original ring everyday.
Post # 14
My husband hasnt lost it, but he also has no real sentimental attachment to that exact ring. Its just a ring to him and if he lost it, we’d just buy another that look like it – that’s why he just wanted a cheap simple ring. I’m not attached to it either and wouldnt really care since it wouldnt cost much to replace.
Post # 15
My dad lost three before my mom gave up on him. It’s sad, but we’ll worth it. A coworker I had at a restaurant years ago was missing his ring finger from an accident involving a wet floor and wire shelving that stuck under his ring when he fell.
If you get him a new one, can he wear it on a chain while working?
Post # 16
Just try to think about how you would feel if the situation was reversed.
I am sure he is being much harder on himself than you can ever be.