Post # 1
Well today is my birthday and both my husband and I are in no mood for celebrations. Yesterday we went to a local waterpark (Concord, CA) and my husband had his wedding band stolen. I won’t go into details because we are filing a police report and insurance claim etc but needless to say we are bummed.
I’m waiting to see if it would be covered by our renter’s insurance and even so we would still have a deductible. Either which way I have a pit in my stomach and my Darling Husband is really down because any ring we get to replace it won’t be THE ring we got married with, plus we hate the whole money factor of replacing it at well.
Ugh I’m just so frustrated! I keep replaying the day over and over again telling myself what if we had done this instead of that. We ended up spending over half the day trying to find it so the day was more or less ruined. So sad. We are just both so incredibly down and depressed over this. 🙁
For those that lost your rings (and I know a few of you did) how did you get over the feeling of a replacement ring? Were you as bummed as we are at the idea of replacement? Or are we just being silly?
Post # 3
I had lost the diamond out of my ring in my previous marriage. (My fault for not replacing the setting when it was damaged) I ended up getting a band with diamonds for my anniversary and was happy. I never remove my jewelry in fear that I will lose it like many other jewelry I have lost. I know I will not lose my ring unless someone mugs me because it doesn’t leave my finger.
I’m sorry you lost the ring. I can understand you being disappointed. 🙁
Post # 4
🙁 Awww. I’m sorry. Happy birthday though!!
Post # 5
Sorry to hear that. On a side note, I wouldn’t file a claim for the band. Theft stays on you for up to 5 years, raises your rates a lot and will keep you from moving companies (if you wanted to) until it falls off. NTM the band would be covered at actual cash value and not replacement cost less deductible. The cost of buying the new band would be cheaper in the long run than making a claim.
Post # 6
Oh no! I don’t have much advice but just try to enjoy your birthday today and get back to the ring tomorrow. Happy birthday from one June 25th baby to another 🙂
Post # 7
That blows!!!!! So sorry!!! I guess to make up for the fact that its not “THE wedding band” you guys can plan a special weekend when you get the new band, and then read your wedding vows again/make new ones for this occasion, and then that way this band has good memories attached to it too. Just an idea to put a positive spin on this!
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
One of my friends went through 6 (yes, SIX!!!) wedding bands in the first 2 years of their marriage. He list 4 and broke 2– and I’m not talking about cheap-o sterling silver rings or anything, these were good quality tungstun & titanium rings, the first few were even engraved, although they stopped paying extra for that when they purchased ring #3.
It was a bummer, but most people don’t keep “the” ring forever anymore anyway, it is becoming more and more popular to upgrade over the years and things, so he really wasn’t that sentimental about the whole process.
I don’t think I really would be either if Fiance list his ring– mine is custom made, so that’s a different story, but with his which is a mass produced simple band, I guess I’m just not all that attached to the actual ring.
Post # 9
So sorry to hear that 🙁 x
Post # 10
My boss often tells the story of how he lost his wedding band about five minutes into his honeymoon with his wife. He laughingly reminded me of this story as a bit of advice on choosing DH’s wedding band. “The plainer the better,” he said. “Preferably cheap enough that you won’t mind replacing it.” Sure enough, we went with a $90 titanium band for Darling Husband, just in case!
Don’t worry too much about the sentimental attachment to THE ring. The replacement will still be every bit as much a symbol of your commitment to each other, and hey, maybe someday you can be the one sharing your story and telling young brides to go cheap on their husbands’ wedding bands!
Post # 11
Aww, that is so sad!! I totally understand what you mean about any replacement not being as sentimental, I’m sorry for you guys!
What about having a special night when he gets a replacement? Maybe a nice dinner out somewhere, like you were proposing, and then giving it to him? It won’t be the same, but at least there will be some new and special memories attached to the new one so it’s less of a bummer.
Post # 12
Darling Husband lost his wedding band probably 2-3 months after we got married. I was PISSED at first, but I got over it. He still doesn’t have one again, over a year later.
Post # 13
Oh no!!! So sorry about that! I don’t have anything I could say to help, but happy birthday.
Post # 14
Thanks bees. I am looking into the cost of replacing it and we will see if he wants to go forward with the same ring or something different. Like I said it is up to him whenever he is ready.
I really appreciate all your comments. I had seriously considered at least re-reading our vows that we wrote when he gets whatever new ring he chooses, just to make it special.
@jpalm13: I am curious what company you have used in reference to your details. This is a huge bummer and I am hoping isn’t the case for us.
We have Ameriprase (through Progressive). Our deductible is $500 but the ring is worth $1,000 so for us personally it is helpful to use inusrance (why else do we have it???). THey called to confirm it would be covered and we would get the value of replacement, not cash value.
Post # 15
@Treejewel19: Already?!?! I’m so sorry to hear that…it totally sucks.
Happy Birthday though 🙂
Post # 16
We bought our rings expecting to go through at least a dozen over the years. We have matching bands that sell for 99$ each and we cant wait to wear them. The important thing for us was understanding that our lifestyle is going to produce some rings in the bottom of the ocean and on top of some mountain in a glacier possibly. I would also highly recomend buying a stand in when you are in situations where rings can be lost.