Post # 1
Well my best friend has notified me that my husband is not allowed to come to her wedding. They have always had altercations with each other but this just puts me in a tough spot. After thinking about it i think its best for me to attend her wedding since ill be her maid of honor but will not be attending her reception party. What do you all think???
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Post # 2
You need to attend the entire thing if you’re her MOH, or you need to step down.
Post # 3
It sounds like you are aware Husband and BF don’t get along so that BF is justified in not wanting your husband at the wedding. If that is the case and you intend to remain friends with her I would say go to the wedding, go to the reception for a bit and then head home.
Post # 4
I am so sorry that she has put you in this position. It seems like she is asking you to choose between them. In my opinion, I would ask her why she doesn’t want him there, but for you to still attend. It may open up some necessary conversations, but if not, you’ll have to go with your gut. If it were me, I would tell her that I am sorry that she has a problem with my husband attending, but that I will stand by him as his wife, and just send a congratulations card and gift. Good luck!
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
goldenstar13: it’s interesting becuase we see both sides of it on these boards. Brides who are asking to be justified in NOT inviting people and now you’re on the opposite side. Going to the wedding as her MOH has nothing to do with your husband. She asked you to stand up with her on her wedding. Go to the whole thing or dont go at all.
Post # 6
Unless your husband has done something heinous to her in the past, it is not appropriate for her to pass judgement on your relationship by not inviting him to the wedding.
I would tell her that I am not comfortable with her judgement and step down from being MOH.
Post # 7
What happened between them to cause the rift? Did he do something to her that she hasn’t forgiven, like, oh I don’t know, steal her panties?
I can’t find the thread now but there was one recently about a bride not wanting to invite her best friends husband because he’s a perv that stole her underwear. It’s probably just a coincidence but boy would that be hilarious.
Post # 8
goldenstar13: I think it kind of depends what the “altercation” was that occurred.
We had the flip side last week when a bride posted about this very subject. She wanted her friend there, but not her husband. In general, it is rude to only invite one member of a couple just because you dont like them. However, we all pretty much sided with this bride because none of us would want to be around someone like that.
Your DH didn’t steal her underwear at one point, did he?
Post # 9
Their both really stubborn people and names were said during their disagreements which was more then one time. I would also be there for her but just knowing that ill be the only one with out their husband their really hurts. Shes my best friend and i want to be there for her but its hard to please everyone. He already knows hes not allowed to go which he thought their issue was dropped and was water under the bridge but obviously its not.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium
ilovebacon: I remember that thread, but don’t remember who it was.
It’s unfortunate that he’s not invited, but if they don’t get along I can’t imagine it’s that much of a surprise. Like a few other have said you’re her MOH so you should be at everything or nothing. If you know the bridesmaids or other guests you can still have a good time.
Post # 11
ilovebacon: Ahhhhhh!! I was thinking the same thing!!!!
Post # 12
goldenstar13: I assume there is a pretty strong reason for these ‘altercations’ if it is enough for her to not invite your husband. She obviously cares about you very much to want you to be her MOH so I’m assuming she would have to have a pretty strong reason to risk upsetting you by not inviting your husband. obviously we don’t know what these reasons are but I assume you do. You have to either go to all or none of it really as she clearly wants to celebrate her whole day with you but only you know if her reasons make sense to you and how much you value the friendship
Post # 13
No underwear was stolen its just everything they argue their drunk so bad that she kicked him our her car and when he got off he spit at her
Post # 14
All or none.
Realize that by choosing none, you may effectively end your relationship with her.
If she truly was in the wrong of these problems, I don’t know why you’re still friends with her. If your DH was in the wrong, I don’t know why you question whether this is a slight.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
You agreed to be her MOH and I’d just go. You have to attend the whole thing. Does your DH care that much? Buy him a case of beer and invite his friends over to hang out for a guys night. I doubt he’ll miss not going to the wedding.