Post # 1
Bees.. I’m at a loss of what to do. I’m 29 and I recently found out that I am not ovulating anymore. The doctor is going to start me on Clomid to help but my DH’s sperms are not good either. He did the test and non of the results were normal. He doesn’t want to try to cut back on drinking, coffee, etc.
He said that he only wants to conceive naturally and will not accept help like IVF or anything else. I’m really sad. We already have a son but I have always wanted to have one more. My husband doesn’t mind having another child but he just doesn’t want the help.
not sure how else to be able to conceiev naturally without the help of a doctor.
Post # 3
@seamonkey1: Is him not wanting to do anything to help actually him trying to avoid having another child? I get that some people are very anti traditional medicine, but from what you’ve described it sounds like he doesn’t want to have another kid as much as he doesn’t want to inconvenience himself.
Post # 4
Men’s sperm production is resiliant and when counts are low its often a sign that he’s not taking care of himself. Odds are you don’t need radical intervention just yet; he can probably fix the problem himself.
My suggestion: Take that man’s coffee/beer away & put him on zinc supplements ASAP.
Post # 5
@sangriiia: He doesn’t mind having another baby at all but like you said he doesn’t want to put in the additional effort. I think when he found out about his sperms and the abnormal results, he decided if we got pregnant, then good for us, if not, too bad..
Post # 6
I hope once you start ovulating that his abnormal results won’t matter, and you’ll get a BFP quickly!
Post # 7
@seamonkey1: I think you need to have a conversation to make sure you’re on the same page about having another baby. If he’s in, then it’s his responsibility to take care of himself. Like a PP said, often poor SA results can be turned around with some relatively minor changes in diet/lifestyle. It’s not just your baby – so just as you’ll make some sacrifices to take care of yourself and the baby once you’re pregnant, he should do the same to give you the best chance of conceiving. It’s only fair.
Post # 8
Did they tell him that making dietary changes could help his sperm quality? Usually it’s alot more complicated than that.
Is he religous? Many people who are raised Catholic do not beleive iit’s ethical to take sex out of the baby making process….th
But If religion is not the issue, then is it monetary? Does he think it’s too expensive? Or does he think your home is whole as it is and that what will be shall be kind of thing? I guess just try to understgand more about his faeelings. We women just get baby ont he brain and we get a one track mind in that sense….it’ can be easy to disregard the feelings of the husband. We all do it from time to time…
I think you should talk more and give clomid a few shots, it could still happen!