- 4 years ago
This is going to be long, but I need to give enough background to the situation for it to make sense.
DH went out to the bar with his BFF Sunday night. They do this about once a month, no biggie. I picked them up when they’re done, drop BFF off at his house, DH and I come home. DH has usually had quite a few, therefore he’s plastered, but he usually eats a sandwich, and then goes to bed.
So we get home, and we’re lying in bed, he’s rambling on drunken nonsense, and I’m scrolling through my Facebook news feed, when I come across one that is about this video game my DH plays. I thought it was funny, so I showed it to DH, and he then proceeded to flip out.
After much confusion of my DH trying to find his phone so he can call a guy and yell at him, he finally says to me “What are you doing talking to ‘Tim’ for?” I now realize that he thinks I have been talking to an old flame, Tim. Well no, dumbass, Tim is a fairly common name, and I happen to have three FB friends named Tim.
This then turned into a huge fight about me re-showing him the status, clearly indicating that it was on Facebook, and that this Tim is not the same Tim he’s thinking of. And now we aren’t really speaking.
We went through this when we first started dating, five years ago. In his defense, he did know that the guy I had dated before him I had been unfaithful to, but I had been honest with my DH about that, and that was that. After a few months of him being increasingly suspicious of any male I talked to, I sat him down, told him that if this was how it was going to be we should part ways, and he got over it. Until now, apparently.
I have never cheated on my DH, have no desire to, nor do I plan to. But does he believe me? Oh no. I was 18 when I did that to my EX (and not with DH, btw, with someone else).
How do I show my DH that I am not/haven’t cheated on him? Have another talk with him, get our feelings out in the open? I don’t blame him for having reservations, but at some point he’s got to realize that was in my past. DH was in no way, shape, or form involved in that.
Any thoughts or advice that fellow Bees can offer would be nice. I am not a bad person, and it hurts that my DH is making me feel like one.