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I would go back and watch a few episodes of "Me or the Dog", there are a few episodes where the dog and SO didn't get along and there are training methods that you can use. Maybe he would be open to having your dog if he thinks there is a way for them to get along. I would not want a dog that didn't like me either, so I get where he is coming from, but if he loves you, I think he should be able to find some compromise in this situation.
. :( Aww that is tough. Maybe u guys can get a trainer to help them get over their issues. I understand if he doesn't want to be with a dog that doesn't let him get close to u but I feel like he could put in some effort to have a relationship with her. So maybe talk about seeking training for them. I think having an apartment is a crappy excuse for not wanting her around. He needs to respect ure wants and needs as well.
It's kind of mean that your husband wants to force you to get rid of something you love just because the dog doesn't like him. Have him keep treats in his pocket and whenever he comes home the first thing he should do is throw the dog a treat. That's like saying "Dad coming home is a good thing." If the dog won't let your husband near you you both need to be very stern with with dog and give him a command to stop whatever he's doing to show his jealousy, jumping, growling whatever. He's right that the dog does need to be trained, but dogs are also good judges or character. If DH is just mean to the dog for no reason, why would he like him or trust him around his mama?
I definitely wouldn't support this man getting another dog, he doesn't understand the commitment you make when you adopt a pet. Besides, he's the one who said he doesn't want a dog in your apartment, why would he want a different dog in there?
I hope your husband and your dog can come to some sort of truce. I'm guessing your dog hates your husband because he hates her. She's also feeling territorial about you-- but I would think she would be used to him by now? Has your husband always disliked your dog, or did something change? I agree that maybe puppy school can help her bond your husband.
Personally, I value my furbabies, and we come as a set.
My husband would never, ever give me that kind of ultimatum, because I would choose the dog. I couldn't be with anyone that values my pet so little.
She's never liked him like EVER.. she is a grumpy dog but she really dislikes him and tehre's no one else that causes her to behave like that its weird. I think that's the reason he doesn't like her, because he likes dogs; but he also says that we have to raise a dog that is OURS and makes the point that she will only be mine because they don't get along and blah blah blah......
You've had this dog for 7 years, I assume your husband KNEW you had a dog. Why all of a sudden does he want you to be without it? What did you do while you were dating?
What if you had a kid from a previous relationship and the kid HATED your new hubby. Like seriously hated him, couldn't get along because this new guy was taking your attention away from the child. Would your hubby tell you to get rid of the kid because the kid doesn't like him, so the child will never be "ours"? lol Honestly I think pets are like children, you really can't just give them away so easily.
It's not fair that he gave you an ultimatum.
I lived at home with my parents and I have a little sister and she kind of adopted her now (but its my dog u__u) So when we were dating she was mainly in her crate if he visited or our in the backyard it wans't a big deal because they just didn't have to be in the same place at the same time but I miss her now :(
I think PPs have sort of covered the answer to the real question: training, seek a specialist, and get your husband ON BOARD.
But seriously, FI would never have gotten away with that kind of talk with me. I would have been like, okay, well since my dog obviously loves me unconditionally, that makes it a lot easier. I think it's crappy that he put you in that place on purpose. Also, it seems like something that could cause a great deal of resentment later on down the road. You shouldn't have to miss your pet. There is really no reason they shouldn't be able to get along.
Tell your husband he is LUCKY! I am a cat lady and I run a private cat sanctuary with over 40 cats. No they are not all inside the house but a few are. And my FH is allergic to cats! I told him as soon as we started getting serious to NEVER make me chose between him and the cats because he would LOSE. My cats LOVE my FH and I sincerely believe that animals have a "sixth sense" about people! LOADS of people have dogs in apartments, a toy poddle should be highly do-able.
Your husband needs to suck it up. I don't know how long you've been with your guy but I'm assuming you've had a longer relationship with your dog than with him. If he felt this strongly about your dog then he should have brought it up before marriage. As it is, springing it on you now that you're married, touch luck. It's not fair to a pet you've had for seven years and raised from a sickly little puppy to just be abandoned like that.
Poodles are excellent pets and while they definitely do play favorites, they're smart as a whip and do very well with training. If you all make the effort, I'm confident your husband and the dog can get along in time.
That is a bad position that he put you in. In the future I would not consider getting any more pets with him as he does not value them in the proper way.
@tksjewelry: agreed. And to be completely honest, if my husband were to say something like that, I'd tell him to pack his bags. How is it fair that he would want any other dog but yours?
Maybe you could compromise and you have your dog and he has his? I would definitely not get rid of the dog though
Man, that's tough. I'd probably take my dog over my husband in that situation...or rather, I would not have married the guy. My dog is my family. We've been together longer than my husband and I. I took on the responsibility of caring for her and we have a deep bond. Luckily my hubby is okay with my dog. He has a dog of his own, so now WE have 2 dogs to love!
I'm sorry you're in this situation. I just don't think he's being fair.
I would never consider marrying a guy who didn't understand that me and my pets are a package deal. Even if the dog is never his best friend, he should not ask you to give him up.
It also makes ZERO sense to me that he wants another dog, just not yours.
Sheesh, what a spot he's putting you in. I wouldn't get rid of the dog. If you can't have yours for the reason of being in an apartment, then why would another one be any different. And you can't ask for a more apartment friendly sized dog than a toy poodle.
I've had my dog for almost 10 years, and while SO's may have come and gone in that time, getting rid of the dog was never and would never be up for discussion! Package deal as someone said before me. Fortunately, my FI loves my dog and she took to him pretty quickly.
And I don't think getting another dog just so it's not just your dog, is a good idea. What happens if it took to you more than him, it'd have to go too? :( I agree with others to try training and treats! Food is awesome motivation! Mine would follow me into fire unless my FI had a treat on him.
Hope you guys can come to a compromise!
I would NOT get another dog.
GO back and get your baby. There is no reason you should have to be put in a situation like that. He had to of known you had the dog, and that it didnt like him, years ago! The only advice I can offer is training.
If it were me though; DH already knows my dog comes first..... FIRST lol.
@MrsRuby: "If it were me though; DH already knows my dog comes first..... FIRST lol."
THIS 
I'd pick the dog. Seriously. When you get married you take your spouse and their pets as a package deal. The dog probably hates your husband because he hates her, and dogs are sensitive to how people feel about them.
@KT808: I totally agree about animals having a sixth sense about people! DH has a mini schnauzer from before he was married previously. She didn't like his first wife at all. Turns out, the ex was not a very nice person, and they ended up divorcing. The dog and I adore each other.
I had two dogs of my own when DH and I met. I would've considered the relationship a bust if he didn't get along with them. These days, you're likely to find my cockapoo snuggling with my husband than with me!
I would tell your husband that he needs to suck it up and that you're not getting rid of the dog. As PPs have said, my dog and I are a package deal, and I wouldn't even pursue a relationship with someone that couldn't at least tolerate my dog (luckily my SO adores my dog). I also would not get another dog with this man. I also have a toy poodle, and they are perfect apartment dogs, so that's obviously just a lame excuse to keep the dog out of the house.
Puppies need to be kept with their mothers and siblings until AT LEAST eight weeks of age because they learn sooo much about how to be a dog from their mother and littermates. I understand that was not possible in this case, but because of that, you should have done extra training and socialization to make up for that.
It's no wonder your dog and husband don't like each other. Every time he came over, she was put in her crate and excluded from the fun. It sounds like they have never spent any quality time together, and now they resent each other. Plus, a lot of men are predisposed to dislike poodles because, well...they're poodles. They aren't the most "manly" dogs, especially the smaller versions.
Your dog and husband don't like each other. Writing her off and getting a new dog isn't going to change the situation. What if the next dog likes you better? Drop that one at a shelter and try again until you find one your DH finds acceptable?
The only thing that is going to change things is training. Of the dog AND your husband, because he's being an a** right now. Another poster already suggested watching episodes of "It's Me or the Dog" (all the more apt because that's exactly the situation you find yourself in). Dogs act like yours is acting because they have been led to believe they are higher in the "pack" heirarchy than they should be. A dog's place in the pack (made up of all family members) is at the bottom. I'm not suggesting you start alpha rolling your dog, (that is the LAST thing you should do). Victoria Stilwell's show has many, many episodes of the dog being uncomfortable or downright aggressive towards one spouse showing affection to the other. I would start watching episodes for advice, and/or seek the help of a professional trainer and/or behaviorist.
Pets are NOT disposable, and your husband needs to understand that.
I have a dog, who I love more then anything despite multiple behavior issues that we have really invested a lot into correcting. I would never give him up. If you decide to bring this dog to live with you all of you need to invest in training it properly.
That being said, I can see where your husband is coming from he deserves to have a home without a dog that is aggressive towards him, and if you aren't willing to train it then it should stay in its home. It sounds like this dog has always lived in your mom's home and it was a family dog, is this right?
Your husband needs to get over it. Your dog of seven years deserves to be with you.
UPDATE: After too much whining and pouting....... DH has finally let his guard down in regards of my dog. He says we can bring her to live with us! YAY! under one condition though: she has to be trained. I think we have met in the middle. Like many of you said the dog does need to understand who's boss around the house. Now I just have to break my little sister's heart :(
Your husband needs to get over it. If you had the dog while you were dating and it was ok then, it should be ok now. Its really inconsiderate of him making you get rid of the little guy. The dog just needs some training. Many people have apartments and dogs, and your dog isn't like a hearding breed, I think it would do fine wirth apartment living. If my FI made me get rid of my dog, he would be the one leaving. I'm in the same boat as you, my dog is MY dog, he loves me and tolerates FI. I've had the dog for 8 years now. If the dog was a deal breaker he should have stopped dating you before things got serious.
Good luck, it should be fine with some training!
My rule of thumb (within reason) is always pick the dog. lol.
It sounds like training would be beneficial for your dog. Your husband, too.
@drainalove: Good luck with your training! I am positive with the right trainer and the right attitude from you and your husband all will be just fine. :)
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about 7 years ago, a good friend of mine gave me a french poodle (toy) because the mom was not taking care of the puppies and they were going to die or have a hard time surviving. I took the little pup when she was less than 20 days old. She didn't even have her eyes open yet. I fed her every day until she was able to eat on her own. Months later she got sick and had to be hospitalized and she survived. 7 years later I got married and moved to another city. My DH doesn't want my dog :(. He says that we cannot have her here because we live in an aparment but its a toy size puddle and my sister has a german shepperd in her apartment and she makes it work! The thing is that he doesn't like my dog and the feeling is mutual my dog for some reason despises my husband and can't see him get near me. However, I miss my dog and I want to have her with me.... She lives with my mom now but they hardly ever pay any attention to her (my mom is always busy) but my husband says that is either him or the dog! he does want to have a dog but just not her! He says that this dog would actually like him.. I don't know what to do. Do I just get another dog? I just don't feel like pets are disposable like he does!