Husband wants to get tattoo

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you want to see what a tree on someone’s shoulder would look like Dax Sheppard has a cherry blossom tree on this right shoulder. I was going to post a picture of it but the only good one I could find, he was flipping off the camera and I didn’t want you to think I was flipping you off.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My hubby isn’t a tattoo guy, so I don’t have any advice for you. But we do know someone who has the kind of tattoo you’re talking about.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My husband has a bunch of tattoos and I like them. He got them many years before we started dating, so I had no say over it. However I will tell you that he regrets all of them! He says things like, “I’ll never be able to see that part of my arm again…” and, “These are so stupid, I wish I had never gotten them”. So, I don’t mind them, but he does.

His idea is cute but I understand it bothering you if you don’t like tattoos in general. Have you let him know you’re not crazy about the idea? Maybe he will change his mind.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I hate to to say this but if his mind is set on it then he’s going to do it, whether you like it or not.  My husband hates tattoos and I have 4 of them…I’ve told him, it’s my body, he doesn’t really have a say, but I would take my time and make sure what I got I really really wanted for the rest of my life, and analyse how it would be reflected by our kids.

From a children’s perspective – my parents were 100% against them, I wanted one but waited until I was 18 and old enough to do it without parental consent, but again, when they realized they had no say they encouraged me to really think about what I want. I also have younger cousins who have come to me wanting to get one, and I basically made a deal with them saying when they’re 18 they have full control over their body, and I would take them somewhere safe if that’s what choice they made, but they had to wait until 18 and really think about it.

It’s ok for your children to think it’s “cool”, just encourage them wait, and think it out.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ll be honest here…I am not a fan of tattoos! It’s just not my thing and I never would have pictured myself with a guy who has them, HOWEVER I am married to a man with several.

My husband has both sleeves done, two rib pieces and a chest pieces. All of which he had before I met him and when we did meet I saw him and not his ink. Normally tattoos would bother me, but on him they do not and I hardly even notice they are there…I think that if your husband does decide to get one that you will not be as bothered by it as you think. You love him for him regardless of some image that may or may not be on his arm.

On a side note: I did tell my husband that if he ever gets another one we need to talk about it first…in depth! I want a report as to why he wants it, the meaning, where it is going to be, everything.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

If he wants to get a tattoo and it isn’t in a place that would affect his work (i.e. face, neck, hands, lower arms) I really really think you need to let him do whatever he wants. It is still his body, ya know? 

And what would be wrong if your kids did grow up thinking tattoos are cool? I don’t really see the big deal. My dad has 10ish tattoos at last count, my mom has one. They were never hidden and my dad got 7 of the 10 after I was old enough to know what he was doing. My brother has 3 (which he got after he turned 18 and he’s a white collar guy for what its worth). I have 0 (so clearly growing up in a family with them doesn’t mean you’re going to have kids run out and get them at 18). 

 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Everyone has tattoos (literally, the majority of our generation has them), so I really don’t think your children will judge him. Especially if it is something as tame as a tree that he adds important milestones to. It’s not a flaming devil, you know what I mean?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree 110% with Corgitales. I say let him get it, it is his body after all. I personally have 1 my husband has 4. And frankly every tattoo we have signifies something to us and I wouldn’t mind sharing what that is with my children.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I am intrigued/confused that he wants his first tattoo to be so large. It’s already a commitment to get a tattoo in the first place—why not start with something less impactful just to make sure it is what he wants? He can always add to it later. I like your idea of drawing it on him to see if you like it!

For those of you who have tattoos or have partners with tattoos, did you start large or small? Did the size of the tattoo impact your decision to get one?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

@Rgeddy: Palm- or hand-sized is smaller than what I was imagining! When you said “large,” I thought it would be something that covered most of his back.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it’s covered 90% of the time – which if it’s underneath his shirt, it will be – you probably won’t even notice it. My husband and I have tattoos on our ribs underneath our arms and sometimes I forget they’re even there! Haha

And since his seems to be meaningful and sentimental, it’s improbable that he’ll become hooked on tattoos and end up with full sleeves or something – I have one and am sticking with one. I wouldn’t worry about your kids, it’s not taboo anymore and they’ll be old enough to make their own decisions by the time they’re allowed to get them anyway.

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