Husband wants to put our matress on the floor – no bedframe.

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
1762 posts
Buzzing bee

cbgg:  You can always get a really low bed frame as a compromise. Having your mattress on the floor screams college frat boy or flop house!! Next he’ll want to decorate the living room with empty liquor bottles. No ma’m! 

Post # 3
171 posts
Blushing bee

The closer the mattress to the floor, the easier for spiders to climb up on. Or that’s what I tell myself, anyhow 🙂

Post # 4
1715 posts
Bumble bee

TheLadyA :  This is what I was going to suggest.

There are lots of low bed frames out there. The two of you might be able to find one that both of you like. 

Post # 5
715 posts
Busy bee

cbgg:  I definitly think a valid reason for having a bedframe is that the matress can “breathe”. I’d suppose everyone sweats (a little) in their sleep, so i’d assume having it on a bedframe is more hygenic. (And i like the suggestion of pp, you guys could just get a real low bedframe… or trim the legs of a regular bedframe)

Post # 6
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We store a bunch of stuff under our bed so we’d be SOL if we didn’t have a bed frame!

I say get a low bed frame, that way he’ll still be able to “fall into bed” or plop things beside it (this one I don’t really get since you can plop things next to a bed whether it’s on a frame or not…). Ikea has this cheap low frame called Malm for $149:

MALM Bed frame, low IKEA Real wood veneer will make this bed age gracefully.

Post # 7
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

cbgg:  Yeah, there’s no way I’d agree to that. Would have been ok when I first got my mortgage and was poor but now, nope nope. Why can’t he just use a bedside table to put things on beside the bed? Does he keep all his stuff on the floor? That sounds rather messy!


Good reasons to have a bed frame – you have underbed storage (you can even get ones with built in drawers if you like!), stops the bedclothes touching the floor and getting dirty, mattress can’t air out as much on the floor etc.


If you do want to make it ‘chick’ I think you’d have to keep everything else around it low profile too and have it dressed nice. Maybe you could go for a Japanese themed room as they sleep on low profile futons etc.


I gave up decorative pillows when my then FI moved in in order for him to agree to a top sheet on the bed and that was bad enough. Now that we are married the decorative pillows will be happening.

Post # 8
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s easier to get up. When the bed is on a frame, you just put your feet on the ground and you’re already in the sitting position, and from there it’s easier to stand. 

Some sex positions work better too 🙂

Post # 9
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Are you using a box spring?  Or just the mattress?

Post # 10
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

In my fiance’s first place he had his mattress and boxspring on the floor. It was actually rather high! I found that what made it not look like a last resort and more like a decorating decision was to put a bedskirt in between the mattress and boxspring so you can’t see it is just a bed on a floor and made sure to have a comforter that was made specifically to hang just above the floor on all 3 sides.

He also eventually had a wooden cutout placed at the head of the bed which created the illusion of a headboard (with a bedframe)… I wish we had taken a picture before he moved out becuase it really was beautiful.

The only legitimate reasons I know for having a bedframe is that if you have very low mattresses then it is harder to get up if there is no bedframe. I also know that there is a purpose to open up storage in the area below the bed. The only way it’d keep the mattress any cleaner would be if you expect your bedroom to flood or you have pets that may lift a leg on the mattress. 

Post # 11
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Our mattress sat on the box spring for the first two years of us together. It sat on the box spring for a year before I moved in. We got a bed frame but it is incredibly, incredibly tall — I am very short, so having the bed so high makes it a big of a challenge to get on the bed. I much preferred it when it was on the floor.<br /><br />ETA: Our guest bed is on the box spring on the floor, too. It will likely never get a bed frame.

Post # 12
73 posts
Worker bee

cbgg:  Have you been sleeping on the mattress on the floor? If you haven’t I would suggest trying it for a week, and then tell him that it isn’t comfortable and you are not getting enough sleep with this arrangement.  If you have been sleeping like this for a while I would maybe ask him if he could even just go with you to look at bedframes? I’m sure you could find a lower bedframe that at least gets the mattress off the floor

Post # 13
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is no legitimate reason that a memory foam mattress has to be on a frame. The maufacturers actually recommend it not be on a box spring as it is an uneven surface and it affects the pressure points. You can choose to use a platform bed.

I don’t think a mattress on the floor is ever going to look chic. It looks like the home of a college student who can’t afford a platform or box spring. If it doesn’t bother you, just keep the bedroom door closed or don’t include the bedroom in house tours for guests.

Post # 14
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I have such a good one for you!

We had our memory foam mattress on the floor of a basement studio apartment for about a year back in the day. Between the mattress “sweating”, us probably spilling a few glasses of water etc in bed, and the cold floor of the basement floor condensating a little moisture – it warped the floorboards and we had to replace a big area Of the floor!

so unless your husband wants to periodically tip the mattress up to air dry, a low frame seems way smarter. 

Post # 15
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

cbgg:  You need something to clip the handcuffs to! Just kidding, but that might get him on board!

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