Husband watches porn of his race, not mine…

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Maybe you’re just all the white chick he needs?

I dunno… I think a lot of people look to porn for things that are a little more unlike the regular sex they’re getting.  I’m not a huge porn watcher, but if I do I look for something a little more out of the ordinary.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Porn is porn is porn is porn is porn. Does the color of the person’s skin really matter? They’re doing exactly what a white, black or asian person would do, so I really don’t understand why him watching hispanic women would be a big deal. We all have the same equipment just different color shades, so how is this a body issue?

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@anonynony83:  I don’t know why HE is doing it, but I can tell you if my SO looked at the porn I watch he would see that it’s NOTHING like us or our sex life. Simply, it’s too different things for me. When I’m watching porn I want to get it done quick! What gets me there on my own is not the same as what gets me off with him. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is- him watching porn and him having sex with you are two totally different things. Yeah.. they both have to do with getting off, but they aren’t meant to be similar. Just because I like sushi when we go out to dinner doesn’t mean when I’m eating roast beef at home I’m wishing it was sushi! 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

so here’s a guestion- just food for thought. When you look at porn, do you look for porn that match your husbands race? 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MexiPino:  +1.

Porn is for getting off quick and efficient.
Sex is for intimacy.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@anonynony83:  Everyone’s body is different regardless of race. Plus, I’m betting most porn stars would have a similar body type whether they’re Latina, Black, Caucasian, Asian or whatever – thin, large breasts, etc. 

Maybe he just likes seeing his own race represented in the media he consumes? Maybe he’s been watching Latina women in porn since he was younger and it’s habit? Who knows. I definitely don’t think it’s a sign that he isn’t attracted to you or is going to dump you for a Latina woman. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@anonynony83:  I wouldn’t worry. My DH only watches bisexual sorority girl porn, and I’ve never been in a sorority!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@anonynony83:  I don’t care for porn and neither does my FI. However, I can see why you would be troubled by his selection. I would imagine that people could choose to use porn as an outlet for things they aren’t getting in real life, such as a fetish. If you aren’t being handcuffed and you’d like to be handcuffed, perhaps you watch some bondage porn to give a tame example. If you’re okay with the porn habit itself, I wouldn’t worry too much about what he watches because it’s personal, outside of your sex life, and is exploring what he is not doing in real life.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@BrandNewBride:  That’s a good point. Not many girls are nurses, baby-sitters, cops, college chicks, and…I’ve run out of porn cliches…all wrapped into one.

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