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Wow, if that had been my FI, he would have booted his brother out the door immediately. That is absolutely NOT ok. Then again, I am not known for being able to bite my tongue, so I probably would have come flying out of the bed room with some choice words for him.
People are so rude and ignorant, and I can't stand having to let them get away with it.
See, and this is the problem. My hubby is very laid back and bites his tongue a lot. However, I had no idea he would just let that slide and now it's caused tension between us. He feels really badly but I just want to go to my family's house and stay there.
It was so hard for me to bite my tongue. I like his girlfriend and we are friends, his family was there, and it's like HUBBY should be checking him before I have to.
Ugh and it's THANKSGIVING!!
I know people like your BIL. It's best to just ignore it and/or kill him with kindness.
Yeah I wouldn't take that crap. If someone said that to my FI about me, he would set him straight for sure, brother or no.
WOW! Your FI better do something about his brother. That's no way to speak to ones Wife.
@mrscheetos: That's exactly what his family does or what they all agree to do. But since I'm not used to letting people get away with shit it SERIOUSLY bothered me. I was in tears because I was so angry.
I agree with the ladies above. I would be more worried about the fact that your husband did not put your brother in his place after he made a comment like that about you.
@ViaMinorViator: Believe me I am. We had a long talk about it and I said I didn't appreciate letting it slide. He said he will talk to him one on one later today instead of around the family. I said sometimes muthaeffas need to be checked in front of other people. We are house hunting and I will see his brother later and yes if he says something else smart (which he MOST likely will) I will have to say something back.
His brother is the most insecure piece of shit I have ever met.
@HotNovember: I love trolls. I used to do this shit when I was in middle school. Happy Thanksgiving.
@HotNovember: yeah, I slept in until 10am today. I slept in until 1pm last weekend of the one before. Guess that makes a bum
@HotNovember: for someone who is all about god, God, or whatever...you are pretty self righteous! very very rude
@HotNovember: hahaha, yes... he loves it and lets me sleep in. nope, no life at all... just like you coming here and just spewing stupid shit. thanks my rocks real,.. jealous much?
Lord did this post take a turn! LOL! Happy Thanksgiving and thanks for letting me vent you guys!
@HotNovember: hahaha... and my ferrari parked out back in my 8 car garage in beverly hill cost me 200k. Please, if you had that kinda money, i'd think it could buy you some class.
Anyway... the problem's not the asshole brother, I think, but the husband. His brother, his problem.
And now I will give amazing head to a turkey leg, in a Ferrari, while sleeping in. Sup.
Hm. That guy sounds like an idiot. Try not to take it personally. I don't have a "real job" and I am sensitive to that sort of thing as well. I think we tend to pick up on what is already bothering us. Don't let that guy have the power! Whether things on our mind stand out to us more or not, that guy is a rude jerk and an idiot. Who cares what he thinks and says?
I deal with that with my own family. The thing is- no one is perfect. I don't walk into their homes and say "you need to get married!" (I am married but my sister has a good job.) But some people are just rude and thoughtless and will rub it in your face.
Even if your SO tells that guy it is none of his business, sounds like that guy is the type to just say stupid things no matter what. He was rude to you and your SO.
Weddingbee banhammer! And now this all makes no sense and is therefore even more awesome.
@LadyLuna711: You're right when you said he needs to put that fool in check. FI goes through a similiar situation when people tell him he needs to find a job. He's constantly laid off because the plumbing business is slow. His friend actually pissed him off the other day when he told him to find a new career. No one will sympathizes until they're going through the same thing. It's absolutely ridiculous.
Hey ladies I'm back!
So hubby spoke to him one on one and the brother apologized. His girlfriend apologized to me and said she felt really embarrassed and awkward and she basically laid him out about it when they left. Apparently, he was all "What did I say? Why does she have an attitude with me?" (Like, seriously???). I don't care. I don't have to deal with him. Hubby hopefully gets that I will not take that bullshit at all and if he says nothing I will lay any member of his family out.
The day turned out better and I didn't have to see him for the remainder of the day. I hope you all had a good safe Thanksgiving and thanks for the responses!
Oh and this all happened around eleven, and they popped up unexpectantly for NO reason (like I said we were not hosting thanksgiving and planned to house hop this year).
glad his gf set him straight too. He just sounds oblivious and doesn't even realize his rudeness and how to mind his own business.
I usually keep my mouth shut when we are with FI's bil. However, after sitting over there for the evening for family dinner before FI's brother went back to TN a week ago and listening to all the crap that bil had to say about fat people, and how we all need to lose weight, go to the gym, don't eat carbs and start playing raquetball, I was furious. I did keep my mouth shut. However, thanksgiving dinner was over there as well. I started with my mouth shut and ignoring him. Until after dinner, he made a statement as we were sitting outside about how as soon as backs are turned we talk about whoever just went in the house, of course he opened the door for my comment... " yep, and none of us can wait until you go back inside"!!! He was speechless. Everyone else clapped and I marked up one for me.
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Today out of nowhere my husband's family drops by (we are not hosting TG this year). Hubby's brother as SOON as he steps in the place begins talking shit about or apartment. It's a lot smaller than hubby's last place, but it's cheaper. I'm in the room just waking up when I'm hearing all this. Hubby explains this place is cheaper and brother says loudly "You need to tell your WIFE to get a job!"
I've been unemployed for a while and it's a sensitive subject for me. I've been actively looking. But that's not the point.
Today is Thanksgiving, I'm already missing MY family, and I had to wake up to this crap.
Brother is a known asshole who everyone just ignores because "that's just him". I'm not used to ignoring things or letting things slide. I'm also not exposed to him often. I see him maybe once or twice a year. I stayed in the room for a long time trying to calm my nerves because the rest of his family is outside and I don't want to come down to his level.
I came out said hi to everyone then took a shower, I came back out and he was gazing at the bathroom I told him "Yes it's called a bathroom. Is there anything else you want to say?" He says nothing. I hate being passive agressive but I was trying to hold it in.
I explain to hubby after they leave this is NOT okay with me at all and he needs to put that fool in check.
I just wanted to vent.