Husband's coworker is getting married–what do we do?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BluebonnetBride:  I think it is really sweet that she participated in a gift for your wedding and I think it is really sweet you are putting effort into trying to attend her wedding. However, at this point your DH committed you guys to going, and he works with this person. I would put the ball in his court. He seems afraid to hurt her feelings, which I totally understand. I think the best way to avoid that is for him to ask her directly. It might be awkward but at least you guys will know what is going on!

Post # 4
167 posts
Blushing bee

Are there any other coworkers who are invited to the wedding that your husband could ask? If someone else from the office is going, maybe they can give your husband details about the wedding or the URL for their wedding website if they received an invite or STD card.


Post # 6
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

She might be swamped with other things: Work, wedding planning, etc. Ask your husband to politely nudge her again when next he sees her. She probably just forgot that she was supposed to give him another one. That sort of thing probably would have slipped my mind too during the wedding-planning stages!

Post # 7
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BluebonnetBride:  Yeah, your husband is the one who works with and sees her. He needs to handle this. 

Post # 9
795 posts
Busy bee

@BluebonnetBride:  if you’re not friends with her on FB, it’s highly likely that the message you sent went to her “other” mailbox, which most people have no idea even exists. I was pissed when I discovered mine, b/c I had dozens of messages from people who probably assumed I ignored them. 

ETA nevermind lol, just saw that she did respond to your first message.

Post # 10
397 posts
Helper bee

@BluebonnetBride:  If I didn’t get an invitation, I wouldn’t go. I would get a gift, though. I’m sure after she realizes that she did not prioritize getting you guys an invitation that she will more than understand why you did not attend. She may be trying to be polite by showing that she intends on providing a formal invite, but hoping that you guys don’t actually attend if she delays long enough. 

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