- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
My husband and I just got married in January. Blissfully happy raising my kids and his kids from our previous marriage.
A little back story. Four years ago she decided she no longer wanted to be an army wife or a mother to their girls. She packed her things and left a note saying she didnt love him, and she had never wanted kids in the first place. However prior to marriage she had boasted to anyone who would listen that she wanted to have his babies.
She also drug out the divorce for 6 months longer than it should have gone on because she wanted his retirement money from the army. She doesnt pay child support and she hasnt seen the girls in 3 years. She calls maybe once or twice a month. Never more than that and sometimes less.
I have been their mother, I have been with them when they are sick, therapy for attachment disorder with the eldest, I have been to every school program and field trip, every milestone in the last three years I have been there for. We have been on family vacations, this summer we are taking them to Disney World, my family now considers them my babies.
We dont say his kids or my kids, we say our daughters and our son. We are truly a family in every sense of the word.
Now for the drama….When he finally got the divorce issued worked out, he filed for divorce, paperwork was sent to her, she signed it, court set a date, she didnt show, and therefore defaulted and the court favored him with sole legal and physical custody of the children. She isnt required to pay child support because nice guy that husband is doesnt feel like we need the money because we make more than enough. However if the children go visit her or she visits them she has to pay all expenses. Will never happen. She always has money for a new house or new car but never money to visit the girls.
Well when their divorce finally went through, she apparently wasnt clear when the divorce happened, mind you she was given a certified letter that she signed for and knew the date. She called two months after the divorce was final and ripped him a new one because she didnt have insurance to pay for plastic surgery. He told her, we arent married anymore. Im not required to keep you on my health insurance.
So she pitched a fit…then a month later..she called and chewed him out again because her car insurance hadnt been paid and she almost lost her new car…she bought the car after the divorce was final, and put it on his insurance, without telling him and he cancelled the insurance…
So we havent heard from her in a while…the last call she made was on February 26th. She talked to the girls and tells them she doesnt like me. Now mind you I have never even spoken to this woman except when she calls the house and asked to speak to the girls. I tell the girls your mom is on the phone and I hand them the phone. Nothing more nothing less.
I love those girls as if they had been born out of my body. Granted we have had some rough moments but those are my girls and Im sorry but you made the choice to walk out on them…so today she calls and demands to know why she hasnt been sent school pics. Nevermind that this is the first time we have heard about it. She hasnt called, she hasnt visited and she doesnt pay child support. For all intents and purposes Im their mother.
You dont get to divorce your husband and children and reap the benefits of still being married to the gravy train. Worse yet, she doesnt call the husband to ask about the girls , but to complain about money and how he has done her dirty. When they sold the house, she kept all the equity including his half even though she never made a single house payment.
I have kept my mouth shut, I have done my best never ever to hurt the girls and I have never once bad mouthed their mother. I do not like it when she calls my husband during the middle of the work day while he is trying to do his job and curses him while about money. She doesnt call him at home, she always calls at work.
Can I just say that I have the urge to rip her a new one next time she calls the house, but I wont because I would never do anything to put the girls in the middle of anything.
Rant over..thanks for listening