Post # 1
Alright ladies, more advice needed 🙂
my husband and I just last night moved into our new home and are super busy with work school and such.
my husband has a friend who is going through some hard times right now, something horrible happened to him a couple years ago and he’s turned strange. I told my husband to be there for his friend, the guy really needs someone.
now we are regretting it, the guy comes over every night drunk (and we have a five year old) he comes by without calling and will knock and yell until we answer the door. He’s a mooch to the worst but it wouldnt be so bad if it wasn’t every day.
i feel bad for him but like today we are super busy unpacking and because my husband didn’t answer his phone the guy comers driving down the street until he finds our house twice already today and now he’s trying to come over for a third time.
he will call at all hours of the night and I have to be up at 530 For work. I’m pregnant it’s starting to annoy me now.
we tell him not to come over, not to call so late, but he doesn’t listen.
two years ago this friend was jumped and raped by a man, I really feel for him, I really do but it’s just getting to be too much. He’s developed a dependency on my husband and its driving all of us crazy. What can we do without being the worlds biggest jerks?
Post # 3
That is so sad. He’s clearly crying out for help and understandably so, it’s driving you nuts. He needs to see a therapist. Perhaps your husband can suggest he go to one? Maybe make an appt for one and go with him? Maybe helping him get help will show him that he’s being too dependant on you guys.
Post # 4
@futuremrsk18: that’s a good idea! Hopefully he will be willing, as a person who was abused as a child I told my husband to be there for hiss friend, I know it’s hard to deal with something like this and would hate to have been alone when trying to cope, but it’s just way tomuch on our family to be his only source of comfort, he’s driven all his other friends away dointhe acutely this.
Post # 5
@Mrslovebug: That’s so sad. Hopefully a friend’s push towards therapy will help.
Post # 6
@Mrslovebug: I don’t know what sort of community resources they have in Texas, but in Michigan we have CMH centers (Community Mental Health) & many times this is covered under medicaid if the person applies.
Either way, he really needs emotional support from a therapist that can help him cope with this. In the mean time he is medicating his emotions through his dependence on your husband. He would be better off (& so would you!) if he found a therapist that could help him work *through* his emotions as opposed to masking them by stalking your husband (for lack of better terminology lol).