(Closed) Hyphenation-or not

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think hyphenating is a great idea although I don’t think I’m going to do it.  

You would definitely have to talk to him about adding your name to his but most men/families don’t seem to be very open to that idea.  Although I think it would be John Johnson-Steadman so his last name would still be his last name. 

Post # 4
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Mine wouldnt sound good hyphenated so Im just going to take his last name. As long as were on the subject (BF and I talked about this a few nights ago). Lets say my intials were ABC currently and BFs are BCD…would my new initials be my first name, middle name, then new last name? (EX:ABD) ORR would they be my first name, my current last name, then his last name? (EX:ACD)

Post # 5
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You could always give up your middle name and make your maiden name your middle name.  Therefore you would be: Mimi Johnson Steadman.  Your initials would be MJS.

This is what I am doing…I didn’t want to give up my last name either! 

Post # 6
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706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’ve actually talked about this at length; I would have made my last name my middle name, or kept it as a second last name, but I love my actual middle name way too much and my last name is a woman’s first name, so it would actually sound like i have two middle names. (side note, my mom’s first name IS my dad’s last name, and bless her, she took his name when they got married).

So we discussed changing it completely together, to something that has been lost in our family tree, however the expense and hassle is really preventing us from taking that road.  Though we’re over a year out from the wedding, we’re at the point right now where we think we’re both going to hyphenate (maybe my guy is the minority, but he totally jumped on board).  We’re also planning to hypenate hislast-mylast, so again to prevent the my last name is a first name issue, even though we’ve been told it’s not etiquette-correct. 

Post # 7
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512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

FH’s mom hyphenated her last name.  They had 4 kids.  Kids 1 2 and 3 each were First Middle Dad’sLast.  FH is the ONLY one out of 4 who is First Mom’sLast-Dad’sLast, with no middle name.  It has been a headache his entire life.  Actually, he’s legally changing his name now because the SS office told us that when we get married, my choices are to be:

1) Myfirst Mylast-Mom’sLast-Dad’sLast

2) Myfirst Mylast

3) Myfirst Mom’sLast-Dad’sLast.

Post # 9
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1221 posts
Bumble bee

i still want to keep my last name… I Thought about hyphenating but it might sound weird because our names end with “ez”. he got kinda mad but i love my last name and i would think about changing my middle name because i hate it! so many decisions

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