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SO happy that she moved to Ohio!!!!

I just can't deal with her made up issues anymore. She HAS to have all the attention on her or she can't function.

She said she wouldn't do the mother/son dance because her 'knees hurt'. So I suggest she just sway for a bit for some pictures and then she can sit down if she chooses. Her response? "But I can't pivot! My knees, my knees!" Since when does swaying in place involve pivoting??? I'm not asking her to salsa dance, just SWAY! FBIL finally snapped at her that she could at least stand up for a few seconds with her son and she finally agreed.

She is 'allergic' to everything. But only when she sees what she is allergic to. If a candle is burning in another room - she's fine. If she SEES that a candle is burning, she is suddenly hacking and coughing and needs some air.

So I am making every effort to make sure that for the wedding the candles are all soy and hyperallergenic and that the flowers are the ones she isn't 'allergic' to. But I can still see her pulling one of her tantrums about her 'allergies' and interrupting the ceremony or reception with one of her coughing fits. 

If she pulls one of her fits the day of the wedding, I don't want to know about it. Someone else can deal with it. I am not sitting next to her throughout the reception and patting her hand while she pulls the 'pitty me' act.

Don't get me wrong, I love the woman. She has a big heart and she is very sweet. But after I am making every effort to make sure she is comfortable, if she complains about ANYTHING bothering her allergies, she is free to sit outside or leave early. 

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That really stinks that you have to deal with her issues.  It's hard enough putting everything together (period), but now you have to be sure that they all work for your MIL as well. 

As far as the mother/son dance goes...just a suggestion.  If you have access to a projector or tv screen, maybe the two of them can stand on the dance floor together and watch a short and simple photo montage of the two of them to a song your FI likes?  At least then they'd be standing together and could share a specific moment between the two of them.  Not sure if that's possible for you and/or the venue...but just trying to think outside the box. 

Good luck!  Hope everything goes smoothly!!

You should introduce her to my MIL, they sound like they are related! I know exactly what you're going through but I find it's easiest not to give in and to all the hypochoriac's "problems."

My MIL went to her doctor so many times with her made-up problems, determined to find something medically wrong with her, that the doctor finally handed her a script for Paxil and told her that the only real problem she had was anxiety! Of course she never took the pills and never went back to the doctor.

Hope your day goes off without a hitch!

@Merelton: Thanks for the suggestion. We actually are planning on doing a 'shared' dance. My father always wanted me and him to dance to 'sunrise sunset' and since it's about a newly married couple and their parents anyway, FI and FMIL will be dancing with us - most likely not through the whole song though.

@StaceyMay81: I wish I could just through my hands up and say F it! But she is just nuts! At her own BIL funeral, when they lit the insense in the church she started hacking away during the silent ceremony and finally her son had to tell her to leave because she wouldn't stop. And at her own husbands funeral, she refused to sit anywhere near the casket because of the flowers. 

@carrieknitscake: Thanks for the advice. I am trying to be as accomidating as I can. I will ask her what flowers she wants to carry ect. but at a certain point, I refuse to let her dictate every choice I make. I will have the bouquet that I want to carry, and if she starts throwing a fit during pictures standing next to me, she can deal with it for a few seconds.