(Closed) Hypothetical: Husband has to relocate overseas for work. Do you go or stay?

posted 5 years ago in Career
  • poll: In this situation, would you relocate with your husband or stay home?
    Relocate! You'll never get this kind of oppertunity again. : (124 votes)
    95 %
    Stay home and visit. The cons to relocating outweigh the pros. : (7 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Uh, go.  I didn’t even have to read the rest of your thread.  All I saw was “relocate”, “3-6 months” and “Europe”.  And thats all I needed to know.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would ABSOLUTELY go. My then-boyfriend (now fiance) was relocated to a different state (and a really abysmal area) for three months… which turned into nearly a year. It was absolutely miserable. If it had been Europe AND I would have had my job waiting for me when I got back, there would have been no question that I would have gone with him!

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @KristenGotMarried:  +1 

    I lived in Ireland for a little over a year with my FI – and while I wouldn’t want to stay there forever, it was definitely a wonderful experience. I’d say go for it! 

    ETA: Depending on where in Europe you’re moving to, you may need to get a ‘pet passport’ for your pet if you chose to bring them. That is, unless you want him or her to be stuck in quarentine for six months. Pet passports can take a while to get (around eight months I think) so I’d probably get started on that soon if you think that you may need one eventually. (Sorry if you know this already, I just wanted to put it out there in case you didn’t!) 

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    As long as covering your mortgage and other payments at home isn’t a financial strain, heck yes I’d go!

    Post # 10
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    Busy Beekeeper

    I’d go with my husband.  I’m not sure if being married a bit longer plays into it – but what I’m learning, as time trudges on, is how much more apart of each other (as a unit) you become.

    Re: the Cons for relocated:

    -Could you find someone to sub-lease or do a short rental type situation?  Or a student that needs housing that could house/pet sit for an extended time

    -Pet: I definitely understand this issue, and – yes, asking a family member to care for them IS a lot but not impossible or inprobable.  

    -yes, you’d miss you family – it would be hard to be away from them and celebrate special events and holidays – but, it IS your extended family (not your immediate family – ie: your husband).

     

     

     

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I can’t believe you’re even not considering this.  I’m so in love with Florence that if a coffee shop near the Duomo offered me a job right now I’d leave everything here behind.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Depends on how long husband was gone for and the likelihood of me being able to get a job on my return…  I’d want to go, and would deal with the pets issue,  but I also wouldn’t want to hurt myself by losing a job I loved to return to a difficult field to re-employ myself.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Without a doubt relocate. Although, from what I know, don’t you have a job you enjoy, that would be my only thing for not wanting to go if I were in yor position.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I vote GO! My SO and I were long distance for two years when I lived in Japan, and it was miserable (being away from him, not my experience abroad as a whole). Plus, Europe is awesome.

    I totally get that it’s a difficult decision, though, when pets and jobs are factored in. Best of luck in whatever you decide, if this situation becomes a reality.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would go! It would be such a great opportunity to travel, I couldn’t pass that up.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If you do go…talk to a tax lawyer.  My federal income tax lawer told us how he claimed for expenses while gone in a non-permanent (anticipated to be less than a year – though ok if it extended as long as at each point it was thought to be under a year) move while maintaining his primary residence.  So you can’t claim primary residence deductions, but your expenses while gone, including meals & laundry!  FYI, he was audited, he said he frequently was because he’s an aggresive deductor, but he never lost.  He kept his receipts but he just needed to keep a diary of the expenses.

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