Post # 1
I’ve been working on my visa process and it got me thinking about a hypothetical question (that will hopefully never be applicable to me!).
Let’s say that you are a Canadian citizen and your SO is an American citizen. You have both been denied visas to live in the opposite country and therefore cannot live together in Canda or the USA. Let’s just say that appeals are exhausted and you’ve had no success. To make it even more extreme, let’s say that you cannot even vist one another’s country.
What would you do? Live seperate lives in your own countries but stay together as a couple? Go through proceedings to move to a new country all together (I hear it’s easy to get a visa to live in Belize!) and leave both of your lives behind? Have one of you immigrate illigally? Or would you decide that the relationship is not going to work and break up?
Hopefully none of us ever face this type of problem! Dealing with immigration just makes me wonder about people who might have issues such as criminal records that prevent them from leaving their own countries.
Post # 3
That would be a such a sad situation! I’m not a believer in one soul mate… so my vote would be breakup. I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where I had no hope to ever see the person or it would be illegal to be together! Hope your visa process goes smoothly! (and quickly!)
Post # 4
It would depend on the country. I would be willing to move to the US if we could both live there legally. I wouldn’t want to have to go any further though.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Have you read Committed by Elizabeth Gilbert? 🙂
Post # 6
I would move to another country with them! I think it wouls be fun to live somewhere new!
Post # 7
We’re international and have thought about this. I think we’ve both agreed we’d give Australia a shot if the UK and US didn’t work. We’ve played with the idea of moving to new country anyway (though ultimately decided to move to his).
Post # 8
I would DIE.
Jk, but really, I think I would be alright with moving to another country entirely. I think it is very to sad to think that a relationship is not strong enough or important enough to you that you would not do everything to make it work, i.e. break up. People have LDR all over the world, and though those aren’t usually permanently long distance, it does prove that it is possible (and yes, I realize that some people think LDR don’t work, I am one of them, which is why I would not want to try it.)
Besides, it would be a great excuse to move and have an adventure!
Post # 9
@cbgg: I would try to start fresh in a new country if the worst came to the worst.
To put your mind at ease… realistically, it’s not that hard to move to Canada. My family did it back in the day, and we NEED people here.
Also… if your SO is an American citizen, it’s actually fairly easy to get a visa for you. I believe it then makes you applicable for a green card (permanent residence):
To promote family unity, immigration law allows U.S. citizens to petition for certain qualified relatives to come and live permanently in the United States. Eligible immediate relatives include the U.S. citizen’s:
- Unmarried child under the age of 21
- Parent (if the U.S. citizen is over the age of 21)
Immediate relatives have special immigration priority and do not have to wait in line for a visa number to become available for them to immigrate because there are an unlimited number of visas for their particular categories.
I know it can be hard, but your particular situation should work out.
Post # 10
@mchitt329: No, does she deal with this issue?
Post # 11
We would move to another country as soon as we could afford it. Having been in a LDR for years, I know the angst of being separated. Even cooler is depending on the country, our kids could hold dual or multiple citizenship.
Post # 12
@canarydiamond: Oh, I’m not too worried about us, (I’m Canadian, he’s American), I just got to thinking about the what if. WE are currently putting our CR1 application together to move to the USA (it’s a pain in the booty but should ultimatley go fine and we expect to get the visa in about a year.
I know, for example, that people with a DUI on their record can’t cross the border. I don’t know how this would apply to a visa situation, but I imagine it would be a problem. Iin any case, I think a DUI can be expunged from your record after a certian number of years. But you get the idea – for some people immigration is not going to be an option.
Post # 13
Canada and America have such liberal immigration laws with one another that I have a hard time believing that would be the case, barring some sort of law-breaking/legal trouble.
However, if it were a more severe case, i’d try to find a new contry we could both live in. If that didn’t work, we’d have to break up.
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@cbgg: Yes! Her FI is being denied moving to the US so they spend some time abroad so that they can still be together. Until she’s denied moving around anymore and has to go back to the US and starts planning their wedding and house shopping alone!
It’s really good 🙂
Post # 15
I’d try to find a new country to live in together before just calling it quits on the relationship.
Post # 16
@cbgg: We would definitely move somewhere we could be together, 100% certain, no doubt whatsoever. I would not want to live anywhere I couldn’t be with my husband. I care about being with him a thousand times more than I care about where I live.