Post # 1
I’m eating dinner and there is a TV movie on in the background that I’m not really watching… But I think the premise is that a woman discovers she is pregnant, and also that that her husband is cheating. So I’m wondering… If you were in that position and your marriage was ending, would you keep the baby or get an abortion?
I’ll answer first – I would get an abortion. I’m obviously pro-choice, and I wouldn’t want to enter a newly single life as a single parent all alone, forever tied to that cheating bastard with shared custody of the kid.
So bees, answer away. And please let’s keep this civil and not turn into an abortion debate.
Post # 3
I’d keep it.
ETA: I may or may not reconcile with said cheating husband. Other options: give the child up for adoption, raise the child myself.
Post # 4
@Pinkmoon: I would keep it. Even if things didn’t work out with my husband, which I would hope he was very sorry and wanted to try, but regardless, I love/loved him once and enough so that I married him, so if we couldn’t work things out, we would still have a beautiful child.
Post # 5
Depends on how far along the hypothetical me was when this hypothetical cheating was discovered and possibly but not likely any extenuating circumstances.
Post # 6
Keep it and peace out to the cheating husband.
Post # 7
I’ll speak up – Most likely, get an abortion. However, it does depend on how old I am, and how severe the cheating was. Like, if I’m young and it was a continual affair – he’s gone and I would most likely get an abortion. If I’m older, and he cheated resulting in divorce, I might keep the baby depending on my financial stability and ability to properly care for the baby.
Post # 8
I think I would keep the baby and try to take the cheating bastard for everything he is worth in court. Lots of child support and limited visitation rights if I could help it!
Post # 9
I’m pro-life, so you can guess what I voted!
Post # 11
I’m pro choice (politically) but I don’t think I would ever be able to have an abortion and not have immense regret so I would probably keep it. Tough situation though.
Post # 12
At my current age, I would have an abortion (if I knew there was no way my DH and I would stay together). If I was older and my biological tock was ticking, I’d likely keep the child.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t have the baby. I wouldn’t want any ties to him.
Post # 14
I’m CBC, so I’d get an abortion regardless of cheating husband or not. I can definitely understand why someone who wants kids would abort if divorce was imminent. I know tons of people who have kids with an ex spouse and it can definitely be a constant source of pain and drama
Post # 15
Tough question. I think I would keep it.
Post # 16
Incidentally my mom was in this situation without the cheating. They were havig some pretty bad marital problems and she knew it may soon be over. She said screw it and had me. My dad was gone by age 2 or so. I was a collicy baby and the first night i soept all the way through my dad asked mom for a divorce. He moved in with the lady from the 7-11 shortly after.
Me? Don’t want kids.