Post # 1
FI and myself are in a bit of a bind. We’ve come down to two venues and are trying to figure out the pros and cons of each one – for venue 1, the cons are mostly about my personal preferences, for venue 2, the cons are regardings accessibility for guests. So here goes!
Venue 1. A semi-formal outdoor ceremony in the late afternoon, then a 30 minute drive to the reception venue. The reception venue is a 4 star hotel, with a relatively formal sit-down meal and a band or DJ in charge of the music. Party on until about 11pm, then everyone goes home (or to their rooms in the hotel).
Venue 2. A casual garden wedding (in a very nice garden) which is, unfortunately, about 1 hour away from the nearest sizable town. This wedding would most likely take place in late morning, followed by a buffet lunch reception. Following the traditional parts of the reception (bouquet toss, first dance, etc.), there would be an option for everyone to get up and dance, or to play lawn games (e.g. croquet, bocce, wander around the garden, etc.). Guests can leave at about 5-6pm, or choose to stay as late as they wish (it’s a family-owned venue, so very relaxed rules), however the only hotel (other than driving to the nearest city an hour away), is a 3 star hotel about 15 minutes away.
I guess I’m really asking what would YOU as a guest rather go to. Please don’t say “It’s your wedding, so it’s your choice.” I’ve been getting that from everyone and I’m trying to make an informed decision about whether a slightly inaccessible venue is completely unfeasible, or if we should go with the more formal, traditional option
Post # 3
#1, but I wouldn’t be thrilled with a 30 minute drive to the reception.
Post # 4
Thanks for the invite! What is this “hypothetical” of which you speak?? IS THAT YOUR THEME???
Post # 5
I am thinknig who wants to wake up early on a Saturday (you included…imagine how EARLY you would have to get up!!) , get in their Sunday best, drive out into the middle of nowhere, and sit out in the blaring sun all day. It sounds nice, but in practical terms, my friend had one of these weddings and everyone was hot and cranky..even in the shade.
ETA: if you werent sure…I voted number one. 😀
Post # 6
@redheadem: Yeah, I know, but venue 1 is in FI’s hometown, and I won’t get married there.
@peachacid: Of course you’re invited!!! And you’re right, it’s a hypothetical theme. So make sure you wear hypothetical clothes!
Post # 7
I voted #2, but then I’m not a fan of hotel receptions. Too stuffy…I think the idea of a casual relaxed afternoon of family and lawn games sounds awesome. Besides, if it’s in early November, it probably won’t be hot
But that’s just me.
Post # 8
Thanks for the replies everyone It’s really handy getting a bit of an idea of what others think.
I’ve edited the poll to add the accommodation options, because the limited accommodation for venue 2 is the main reason my FILs argue against it. Venue 1 has heaps of options for accommodation, but less flexibility in the reception style.
Post # 9
I say #1. From my ceremony guest also have to drive 30 minutes to the reception. Our apartment is smack dab in the middle. 15 minutes to the ceremony. and 15 to the reception. So we chose something that was close to us. We have already had people complain about the drive. But the way I see it, then dont come! save me money!
Post # 10
Personally I would love yo go to either but my preference would be #2. But it is normal where I am from to travel 1-2 hrs to a ceremony/reception site! I don;t think the accommodation matters much in regards to option #2 because the festivities will be over early (3, 4 or 5pm?) so an hour drive to the hotel wouldn’t be a bother! And most guests wouldn’t get too tipsy for a lunch wedding!
Post # 11
I would personally prefer #2.
It sounds like a nice day, and being less formal you can really enjoy yourself instead of feeling couped up in a hotel ball room. But then I wanted a small wedding of under 80 and my guest list has balloned out to 239 thanks to my MIL. I vote that you get the wedding youve always dreamed of which sounds like option #2 from the little things you are saying.
Post # 12
I would like #2 because in a buffet style I can pick and choose what to eat and I love to play games!
Post # 13
@ivythorn: Yeah, option 2 is definitely my ideal wedding. I can’t stand formality and this was what I originally had planned until the future-in-laws started crying that there wasn’t much accommodation available. So it’s good to know that the idea has its merits and that not too many people would really be put out by having to drive for an hour!
Having said that, though, my parents own this massive garden and farm where several friends have already said they’ll camp out, they have a five bedroom house (which has held 40+ people in the past) AND they have a second house they rent out which has slept up to 20 people! Obviously that gets kinda crowded but, with a 3 star hotel 15 minutes away (plus an hour’s drive back to civilisation for those that want to), accommodation shouldn’t be an issue. Hopefully. Now I’ve just gotta break it to the FILs….
Post # 14
i prefer evenign events to be honest. i dont like spending lots of time in the sun and also not a big fan of lawn games at all. for the second wedding id stay long enough to be polite…particularly if it was over an hours travelling
i say 1!
Post # 15
Where is the wedding? I agree about the daytime heat. I don’t do well in the sun and being outside in a dress all day might not be fun if it’s hot and sunny. Will there be any shade like a tent?
I don’t think it’s a problem though for accommodations. There’s a 3 star hotel 15 minutes away? Sounds good to me!
Post # 16
I like #1. Although I do like the idea of lawn games. Driving sucks and you might have guests without cars/licenses?