- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
This is my first post and I have a hypothetical situation – I would appreciate some insight.
So, say you get engaged shortly after your younger sister. everything’s peachy. You are the planning type, you’ve been with your finace for 6+ years and you’re ready to get everything set down and booked. So you do.
You book your hall, order your dress, plan your theme, invites, etc. Your sister has, by this time, switched her date three times (from January to March to June). To keep the peace, you make sure your date is after her’s by about three months (end of August). This is also to make things a little easier for the family (between travelling, two weddings, etc.)
Sister has also by this time stated she asked her best friend over you to be her maid-of-honor. (oh the drama). But whatever. This is accepted by you with grace and you say your piece about being disappointed but understanding, and move on.
Anyway. Meanwhile. you and fiance are gainfully employed and work like crazy to pay for this thing. sister AND her fiance end up losing their jobs (one due to his fault – her’s was not). So, they are both on unemployment, haven’t booked a place (planning to have it at a family member’s house if said family member can get their lawn set for something like that). But planning is still moving along slowly.
so. by this time, sister has decided to have two MOHs (which is what you did from the start so as not to slight either your sister or best friend). (are you getting the inconsistency vibe? >.> )
Fast forward to today, when sister skips out on a bridesmaid dress fitting to go look at halls instead of family member’s yard for her wedding. Her wedding is less than 6 months away during the height of wedding season. she and her finace are still unemployed. She finds a hall two and a half hours from where you live, and an hour from where she lives, that is relatively cheap. It is the first and only one she looks at. The only day they have available is July 11. Your wedding is August 28 and in a different state, where you live (but close enough for friends and family to make the drive). She is planning to plunk down a deposit. Mom is on board with this and thinks its fine. Meanwhile, you have family who lives out of state and across the country, and three months was already cutting it close. Now there are 6 weeks between weddings. Money is tight all around for family, and you have been trying to be considerate of this.
Choosing this date also makes it nearly impossible for her to do anything for your wedding because she’ll be on her honeymoon during crucial dates. It also ensures you will be plunking down close to 1K for maid of honor and bridal party duties, dress, shoes, hair, etc. in the midst of paying the final deposits for your own wedding.
So. Are you wrong to be upset? Fiance, who is usually extremely laid back, is also annoyed with the turn of events. Everyone outside who you have asked has said that sister’s actions are rude and inconsiderate. What do you think?