Post # 1
Grr I really can’t complain about much with FI. He is normally a very kind, loving, compassionate, funny, warm person. Then V-day comes and baam he’s like mr anti-love. He just does not see the point.
It is really bumming me out. My daughter and I got him a personalized gift amongst other things. My girl has been begging her to take him shopping for me and he has no idea why it bothered me when he said “Don’t worry I can just take her to CVS Monday after school.”
Um, thanks dude.
Post # 3
I’m sorry your future hubs isn’t into the vday. But honestly, it is a lot of pressure and in all honestly, I don’t particularly like it either. I feel it is a competition to see how well your man stands up against others.. and the pressure to preform is kinda unrealistic.
But maybe, if you tell him that the day does mean something to you, and that anything that means something to you is worth recognizing, he’ll see that as a plea for understanding and maybe do something for you.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 4
@SoontobeMrsA: I dated a guy like that once, he thought Valentine’s Day was basically the day of the devil. He said it was good for nothing but promoting drugs, sex, and alcohol. (Preacher in training)
Not saying your guy believes that, just thought you might like to know someone out there had it worse(;
Post # 5
It doesnt seem like a big deal to me. It’s just a commercialized day that doesnt mean anything. If he shows you he loves you all of the other days that is what matters. I know a lot of guys who are not into Valentines Day. Who wants to be pretty much told they have to do something special – most guys would rather do it on their own terms.
Post # 6
We don’t think much of valentines either. It’s so commercialized–we think we should express our love and appreciation for each other every day of the year, and not just on one day where we are being pressured by advertising to buy things we can’t afford and don’t need. So instead, just to mark the day as a holiday, we do something inexpensive but fun. This year we made cookies together from scratch. It was so much fun!
Try to see it from his perspective. He wants to express his love for you because he loves you, not because he feels like he has to. But if it means a lot to you, then he should try to respect that too, of course!