- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
We are going through this too.. FI and I have completely different tastes in music and he doesn't want anything thats over done. We have a song we like for a bit and then change our minds on it which sucks because we are completely running out of time.
The song of the week right now is 'two in a million - s club' because FI is a closet s club fan.. and I think it would be hillariously cheesy and sweet.
Do you guys not have a song, that you both listened to early on in your relationship, and both connected to? I thought everyone had a "song". We aren't doing a wedding, so we don't have to think about that, but I 'm pretty sure we could come up with so many. We love country, so " Nobody but me"-blake shelton, might take the cake. I used to sing to him that song, ALL the time, lol. Anyways, goodluck in your searches!
Hm, maybe you're asking too much of it? Instead of going for the perfect song what about one that was playing during a special moment, or just reminds you of each other?
We're going with a Kings of Leon song. Ridiculous, maybe, but us? Yes.
We thought the same thing, until one day I was playing Michael Buble's Crazy Love. There's one line in there that says, "And when I'm returning, from so far away. She gives me loving, and brightens up my day." This really hit home for both of us. By the time we were married, we had seen eachother 8 times over a course of 2 1/2 years and it seemed like our relationship was defined by us being apart. So that one line has HUGE meaning to the both of us. Maybe it will be the same for you. The right song will just come out of no where when you least expect it!
We're in the same boat. I'm a music nerd, went to music school... and FI could really care less. We don't have any song that 'means' anything from our (sorta short) relationship... so what to do?
I have a few contenders based on the feel of the song, but everything I've played for him hasn't gotten much of a response.
So yeah - no help here, just I know what you means :)
I was the same way, went through soooooooo many songs looking for something PERFECT. But perfect wasn't out there.
We ended up going with this song that he sang during kareoke and pulled me up on stage with him (before we were even dating), so at least the song had some significance to us. While looking I found this kinda cheesy song that I liked and me and my husband slow danced to it a couple times trying to figure out if it was too cheesy for our first dance song - it just is a sweet song and the lyrics fits us, but it's cheesy. We decided it was too cheesy but still had it played as one of our slow songs and for some reason that cheesy song makes me tear up (and him too I think) when I hear it now. So I guess just don't care what others think, it doesn't have to be perfect, just try and find something you and your hubby have some connection with.
Our first song ended up being You and Me by Lifehouse, just because we didn't have 'a song' and we were running out of time. I love country music, he doesn't. So country was out. So I just played a bunch of rock songs I thought he may like and he liked You and Me and I did, too, so that was that. It was NOT an important song to us before the wedding, but now it is!! I listen to it at least a few times a week at work on YouTube and it takes me back to our first dance. :) Good luck picking a song!!
I have heard Lady Antebellum's song numerous times on the radio, had my little sister sing them to me, and also sing them myself. Not until last night was I in the "wedding mind set" when I listed to Lady A's "When You got a Good Thing." I asked my Fi to listen to it (in the wedding mind set of course) and point out the main things that remind him of me. We absolutely love it!!
i keep coming up with what i'm sure will be winners and then he just blinks and shrugs. x_x ugh. i'm tapped OUT!
UGH! Same here ...
I've listened to a million songs. Everytime I hear a song on the radio, in a movie, on tv I think OMG THAT COULD BE OUR FIRST DANCE SONG....
I just don't know anymore. Right now I think this might be it
Ugh this was so hard for us. We didn't decide until like 2 days before our wedding! Songs I loved he felt "meh" about. Songs he loved I felt "meh" about. I wanted something that spoke to us but wasn't TOO sappy/meaningful (ex.- he wanted "broken road" bc it really fits our situation but it seemed too personal to me). We basically kept just putting it off and my DH was making our reception play list which included a lot of slow songs we liked... we looked through them and decided our two favs were "I'm yours" by jason mraz and "come away with me" by norah jones. We tried dancing to each and dancing to "come away with me" was a little easier so that was it.
Not a super romantic story bc it wasn't "our song" before... but it is now!
What a great song, for a first dance song. It's so amazing, I'm listening to it right now! hehe
Can I join your club? Mr.ND and I have some very different/interesting tastes in music. He's one of those 'whatever you like, I like' sort of FIs, so I'm hoping he'll at least want a little input on the first dance song.
He things the walking up the aisle/down the aisle songs are 'mine' since it's me walking, haha. So I think I can convince him that our first dance song is 'ours' so he gets to help! :-) I'm thinking Foo Fighters, or Red Hot Chili Peppers...we just have to make sure it's 'dance-able' and that the lyrics are appropriate for 90% of our guests (can't please everyone).
@UpstateCait: If it makes you feel better, we didn't pick out "Our Song" until 3 days before the wedding. It was the only song that we could agree on. It's "God Only Knows" by the Beach Boys.
I thought that too! Our song is only "our song" because we listened to it and sang it to each other on our first date. It's "under the bridge" by the red hot chilli peppers...and quite frankly I want something a little bit more slow paced and romantic for our first song. Any song that I like is usually over played or FI doesn't like it. I finally found one that strikes a chord with us.. called " when I say I do" by Matthew west. There are a few lines in there that get me emotional because it talks about being there through sickness and through health. We'e dealt with a lot of health problems on both sides of our immediate families..so it's really appropriate. The song just feels right in general. Our wedding is still very far away, so things could definitely change..but for now, this is the one!
We never really had a song that held special meaning for both of us. There's a song that I adore and reminds of me FI because I heard it for the first time on the way home from our first date. It's hauntingly beautiful but it is NOT a romantic love song. It's actually really sad ("Star Witness" by Neko Case if you're curious). I recall listening to bands like Weezer in the car during our first few dates but again, nothing stands out as meaning a lot to both of us.
We ended up choosing a song by a band we more recently discovered together and both enjoy. It's short and simple so our first dance hopefully won't be too awkward. We're just going to sway to it.
I've posted it before, but you can listen to the song here.
I sort of feel your pain. My FI and I wanted “A Groovy Kind of Love” by the Mindbenders, but we can’t find a decent version that doesn’t sound like something you recorded off the radio. (Aren’t all these old songs supposed to be re-mastered by now?) So we’re still searching for something.
This has been a pain in the ass for us too. We don't have a 'song'. Plus we're huge music snobs, so we nitpick everything. The closest we've come is 'Do You Realize?' by The Flaming Lips.
I don't think your first dance song has to be THE defining song of your relationship at all. First, not all couples have a song. Second, even for those that do, that song might not be appropriate for a first dance. Finally, even if the song could theoretically be a first dance, what if it doesn't fit the vibe you want for your wedding, the dance you want to do, etc? Just pick a song the two of you like, and it'll ultimately become meaningful to you.
DH and I started dating in Spain, and we had a Spanish song that seemed to always be on when we were out dancing, so that became "our song". We both loved it and sang it to each other all the time...but it was about a break-up, so not exactly first dance material.
Our other song, "I'll Be There For You", also played a significant role in our relationship. It was playing at the moment he fell in love with me. We considered it for our first dance, and we could have definitely used it...but we didn't want to do a slow dance.
We danced a waltz to Valse Masquerade, which really didn't have a ton of meaning to us as a couple before we chose it. I listened to it before we were even engaged and was really struck by the melody, the ups and downs of the music, and I thought it would be a good metaphor for the challenges our relationship had been through. And it was just a beautiful song to dance to. DH agreed. After spending a ton of time practicing our dance and the once-in-a-lifetime experience of dancing to it at the wedding, we now feel a personal connection and consider it 'our song.'
We picked ours out before we even got engaged! :) The song "Everything" by Alanis Morissette really hit home for the both of us.
"You see everything, you see every part
You see all my light and you love my dark
You dig everything of which I'm ashamed
There's not anything to which you can't relate
And you're still here"
We both felt that the song could have been written by either of us about the other!
Yes! I was trying to find one last night. FI was playing Grand Theft Auto and the only helpful thing he said was "wasn't there a good one a few songs ago." Not helpful at all. I like a lot of music that other people find depressing, and he likes classic rock so it's not going so well. The only song that reminds me of "us" is Santa Baby because for some reason we always end up being silly and slow dancing and singing that song.
@Cash000: Thanks. We really love it!!
@CorgiTales: Don't you love that, though? That it wasn't your song before, but now it is? That's what I love about our song now. Every single time I hear it I think of our wedding, since it wasn't our song before the wedding. The only memory I hav of that song is us with our first dance. I'm actually glad we didn't have a song prior to the wedding. :)
Thanks ladies. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
@Cash000: Nope, we don’t have a song. The only song we ever really sing to each other is Buttercup but we’re not really feeling that as our first dance.
I think buttercup could work! haha, I'm sure you guys will come up with something you both love.
@Jenn23: It is very cool. That song will always be our wedding song and every time I hear it I think to that first dance :)
We are having the exact same problem. FI doesn't want anything too sappy, but I really want the song to embody our love for eachother. Just like a lot of things with this wedding, I think I'm making too much of it. It's just a song. But on the other hand, it should be THE song. You know, the one that when everyone sees you dancing to it on your wedding day and they all tear up and say, wow, that song is so perfect for them. Ughhh, I'm no help. I'm sure we will all figure it out and in the meantime, I'm heading back to youtube to continue my search...
@CorgiTales: Forgot to mention that I contemplated walking down the aisle to "Come Away With Me". I didn't, but it was a contender. :) I LOVE that song. So beautiful and romantic. :)
@UpstateCait: Nope, you aren't alone! You'll come up with something. :)
10 days out and we still can't agree on a song....the DJ is probably annoyed with us.
I had FINALLY picked one out I thought was the one and he didn't like it because he doesn't like the singer. Ugh...vicious cycle!!!
If you both have a song you really like, have you thought of doing a mash up? I don't know how they go, I've heard of them though, and as long as the songs are able to mash up nicely it'll be personalized to the two of you, and probably something different people at your wedding haven't seen.
We don't have a song either lol...we are trying really hard to find something, but all of the ones we like, the lyrics kind of suck lol. One of our favorite songs is by bnl called "I can I will I do" which sounds cute, but its basically about how much the guy sucks at being in a relationship and how he doesnt even try lol...not really first dance material :-p
There are a ton that I really loved for us and the FH nixed most of them. I got so frustrated over it I just let him pick our first dance song: HUGE mistake. I ended up with a Journey song. WTF, I am going to feel like I am supposed to be at prom not a wedding. Only my guy would pick an 80s hair band song. ::facepalm::
@UpstateCait: Why not use Buttercup and totally jus be silly cheesy romantic with it? I guess there's a bunch of different routes you could take (1) keep lookign for that perfect song (2) find a song you both love, regardless of its lyrics- though I would steer away from anything anti-romantic (3) Just pick a song you can both have fun dancing too.
I just got engaged and my decision is made for me. It will be "Hero" by Enrique Iglesias. One of the defining moments in our relationship was my now fiance asking me out,and me sorta trying to say he wasn't really boyfriend material. I couldn't see us doing typical dating stuff like dancing - so he turned on this song, started singing it to me and dancing. He still starts singing it to me whenever its overheard.
We didn't pick ours until the week of the wedding. Our tastes in music are so different we had a really hard time choosing. But we were in the car one day doing last minute errands and a song came on that we both liked. Sadly, I don't even remember what it was. I'll have to look back at the video. Oops.
my issue is not being able to pick one song. here are my three picks, maybe it'll help you out. marry me - train, everything - michael buble, better togther - jack johnson
tobismomma I heart jackjohnson, I swear I'm the only one who does not have a get phsyced mix to go to the gym I have jack johnson and other songs for the wedding
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| Lyndzo | 34 |
| Ms. Salamander | 23 |
| beargoose | 21 |
| rebwana | 21 |
| his chippymunk | 20 |
| mypinkshoes | 18 |
| LammChop | 17 |
| fivemonthsnotice | 17 |
| kat2014 | 15 |
| s.renea9 | 15 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| pengoala | 1 |
| glitter86 | 1 |
Beekeeper
I’ve been searching for our first dance song for years (yes, YEARS). The few I like, FI hates and vice versa. I’ve spent countless hours listening to hundreds (maybe thousands) of songs only to stop them a minute or so in because they’re just not right. I’m starting to think that “our song” doesn’t exist. Anyone else feel like this? If you’re like me and searched forever to find your first dance song, what did you choose? Did anyone just give up and pick the best of the worst since you ran out of time or got sick of searching?