I accidentally invited someone to my wedding via FB invite -_-

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would personally say you have to let her come. You can’t really “uninvite” her for your mistake. That is just my opinion, though.

Post # 3
4835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’ve learned a SM lesson.  Now you’re either gonna suck it up or you’re gonna be a bitch.  Your choice.

Post # 4
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Eh, if you don’t really see yourself having a relationship with her in the future I would apologize and explain (I.e disinvite). 

Post # 5
12349 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Let her come.  It’s your mistake for inviting her, and uninviting her now would be incredibly rude.

Post # 6
7639 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ileanonthewall:  You put her on a facebook group but didn’t send an invitation?

I think you’re saved by the fact that you haven’t invited other old co-workers.

Write to her that you made a mistake, and did not mean to invite her. Explain that you haven’t invited other old co-workers either, the wedding is small and you can’t invite everyone, etc etc. If she asks other people she knows she’ll find they’re not invited either, so you should be alright.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by  aussiemum1248.
Post # 7
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Un-inviting her now, unless it’s literally like a 20-person family-only wedding, would be incredibly rude. Others will say no; give her one of their spots. NBD.

Post # 8
6737 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Big faux pas using Facebook to manage invites. Even if you don’t accidentally invite the wrong person, depending on your guests’ privacy settings, the whole world might be able to see your invite.

Anyway, you have to make room for this guest, taking back your invite would be incredibly rude and hurtful. Plus, for all you know, she may have already bought a gift or a new dress or plane tickets.

Post # 9
6881 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

If she lives in another state and still said yes than I’m guessing she thinks you guys are closer than you actually are. I think it would be pretty hurtful to uninvite her now. Also, as a PP stated, what if she already bought tickets or booked a hotel room? I typically don’t RSVP ‘yes’ until I have my travel plans and hotel set up.

Post # 11
7639 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ileanonthewall:  haha accidental invite and accidental accept! All’s well that ends well. 🙂

I would be careful about facebook though. Can’t you set up a group so only certain people can see it? 

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