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posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3352 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am sorry to read about the loss of your horse, and also sad about all the other things (Nan especially) that are causing you stress and sucking the joy from what should be an exciting time for you.

I am however really happy to read that you get to marry what sounds like an amazing man, who values what you do, and most importantly your happiness. 

Big hugs, I am hoping for brighter things to come for you.

Post # 4
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


Is your nan’s possible death and funeral the reason you might not be able to honeymoon? Because my advice would be to make sure you see your nan before your wedding, then take your honeymoon anyway. One of my grandmothers died just before a family holiday with my DH and kids. I phoned my condolences to all those close to her, and took the holiday anyway, missing the funeral. It’s a decision I’ve never regretted. Fortunately neither my father nor anyone else pressured me to do any different.

Post # 5
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Lovemelovemyhorses:  so sorry you are going through such a rough time. the A Practical Wedding website has several articles written by people who held weddings in the midst of losing a family member or serious illness that might have some helpful advice or words of comfort for you.

Post # 7
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Lovemelovemyhorses:  I am so sorry to hear about all the bad things that have been happening to you lately, especially when it is supposed to be such a happy time.

Don’t postpone your honeymoon until you have to. Even go and fly home if needed. Do you have travel insurance because that usually covers the cost of reimbursement for a family death. If not go online tonight and get it.

Post # 8
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am sorry all this is happening, particularly at this time. At least you have a great FI there for you. Life happens but it is so much easier to deal with when you have a supportive partner. 

I too would encourage you to go on your honeymoon if at all possible. Staying home isn’t going to change anything.

Post # 9
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I’m so sorry for everything you’re going through, what a trying time right before what should be such a happy event.

Not sure if it would be much help or maybe you’ve already read it but Mrs. Jackrabbit went through losing her grandma right before her wedding and some of her blog post address the issues of her dealing with feeling guilt and loss at the time as well as making the decision to still go on her honeymoon and miss the funeral. If you start here: http://www.weddingbee.com/2013/09/13/family-emergencies-and-weddings/#more-296728 and read forward maybe her blogs and other’s comments on them can be helpful to you as well.

Again, so sorry. A very close friend of mine has horses and I know how devastated she would be to lose her girl. With everything else you have going on too…it’s a tough time. It’s great that your FI has been so supportive and there for you. I hope you’re able to work out going on your honeymoon and enjoy that and your wedding as much as possible during this time.

Post # 10
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Lovemelovemyhorses:  I’m sorry about your horse and your grandmother. That’s tough. Try to go on the honeymoon if you can – you need some joy! ((hugs))

Post # 11
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


So sorry that you are going through such rough time!  But as you said, it sounds like you are marrying a great guy – and I hope that brings enough joy and piece of mind to you.

As PPs said, I think you and your FI greatly need (and deserve) a vacation/honeymoon after the wedding – so I hope you two will be able to go somewhere (even if it’s close by!) and have some quiet, alone time to be together, and relax.

Sending many hugs and prayer…

Post # 12
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

I am so very sorry that you are going through all this! I think we would all feel a little targeted by bad luck if we were going through this all! Also, I am so sorry about your horse. I understand the pain of losing an animal that was family to you, and it’s heart breaking! 

But, you could take something wonderful away from all this. Your fiance loves you and is a wonderful man and you will be able to get through anything that you are facing! That kind of relationship is beautiful 🙂 

Just focus on your wedding and marrying a wonderful guy! 


Post # 13
1836 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Lovemelovemyhorses:  I’m so sorry about your beloved horse and your nan’s terminal condition. Are you able to push the honeymoon back by a month or two?

Post # 14
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That’s so sad! I hope you can take a late honeymoon instead!

Post # 15
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think your final sentence says it all: you’re marrying a wonderful man.  Keep that in mind.

If it helps to know, you’re not the only one.  My best friend had to practically replan her wedding days before due to a natural disaster where we live, and suddenly her grandparents couldn’t come b/c her g-pa got sick and consequently died shortly after.  B/c of the natural disaster (hurricane) a lot of her guests couldn’t make the wedding. It was a terrible time leading up, but the wedding was beautiful and she had a really great day.

“This, too, shall pass.”

Post # 16
2131 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am so sorry you’re dealing with so much right now! I agree with the PPs… please try to go on your honeymoon! You’re going through a lot and I think a nice little break is a good idea. Your fiance sounds like such a good guy and I wish you two a very happy marriage.

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