Post # 1
I just came from my second fitting and it was all cut up. They said that they don’t complete the sewing until the very last, i have two more fittings to go to. Honestly, i am not happy with this wedding. Less than 30 days to go and i have so much crap to do. I have just been so busy with my job and i am tired when i get home, dunno where my weekends go and now all of a sudden its almost here. I have all my vendors in line, i just need to buy all the little things.
Is it normal to be unhappy at this stage? Plus it doesn’t help that my dress was made for a six foot tall lanky girl, and i’m five foot nothing with boobs (real) and the dress just looks different now that i am not standing on the stool!
Post # 3
I think it’s normal. At my 1 month mark I had a bit of a panic, now that I’m at three weeks, I’m OK again. Don’t worry about the dress too much, your seamstresses will take care of it; they are professionals! Hang in there.
Post # 4
Make a list. Pick 10 things that are most important to you that you would really upset if they were not part of your wedding day. Stick this list to the fridge, bathroom mirror, whatever. Pick the 10 least important things, and throw them in the trash!
I found in my last month it was very helpful to set aside one or two days a week to do NOTHING wedding related. Mondays seemed to work out well for me. So, while your schedule may be different than mine, I found it helpful to designate so much time on a Saturday and/or Sunday for just wedding related items. So, I’d get up early, and be the wedding woman from 8 – 1 and then I was done. If it wasn’t done by 1, it would have to wait until Sunday.
Take a deep breath, and remember not to sweat the small stuff. Oh, and it’s all small stuff!
Post # 5
My last month was the worst. I was stressed, I wasn’t sleeping, it was bad. Take some time and do something for yourself. Make sure you don’t do anything wedding related at least one day a week – that includes no weddingbee. I’d drive myself insane when I was on here and my time was coming up and I was so stressed out – what else was I forgetting – how come everyone else is happy and I’m not. In the end it will work out.
Post # 6
For some reason, the one month mark seemed to whihp my (then) FI into shape. Its like, suddenly he realized that we were having this big party in a month and maybe he should get going on planning it and preparing for it. It couldn’t have happened at a better time, because like you I was hitting my wall at the one month mark and saying “I don’t care” to everything that needed to get done.
He took over on a lot of things, he interrogated me and made lists about what needed to get done, finished all the programs and their boxes by himself, took care of the OOT bags, folded paper for poms so all I had to do was fluff them, etc. Really made me feel a lot better, and even excited about the whole thing.
With only a month left, get your FI to jump in and take over some projects. I think guys can tend to have trouble taking the long view, but work pretty well under pressure!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry! My second dress fitting was an absolute disaster–I stormed out with my dress after demanding my money back for the alterations. I was shaking I was so angry, but it all turned out okay. The shop did end up finishing them, and fixing the problems they created.
Definitely start thinking about what you can cut from your wedding planning without missing it. My idea of fancy programs became a tri-folded piece of cover-stock. There’s space for everything to give.
Post # 8
Cut out the frills that aren’t important. Don’t DIY like making 200 candy apples…just start to down size. I wanted an initial logo, in the end, I said “forget it, it’s toomuch detail to oversee.’ I wanted choc covered strawberries but couldn’t deal with the person who needed us to pick up because she counldn’t deliver because hse was babysitting grandchildren that day…but could still make them…
I wanted meny cards. I wanted donation cards. At the end I said forget all this stuff. Not important to the day. will it make a difference in my guest’s happiness and remembrance of the day; or am I collecting photo ops?
As I began to peel away all the things that really don’t matter; but are nice; I felt burdens were lifted off my shoulders.
As for the dress, depending on what you paid, go look at a discount bridal place which does cash and carry. It’s not worth the stress. Already you are saying the dress was for a taller person. Call your dressmaker and tell her you are asking her to finish the dress now because you are looking for other dresses because you are unhappy. Ask her to move up your completion date. Call some friends the same size and ask if their dress is available for you to use in case yours doesn’t come out well.
Start looking on line for bridemaids dresses in off white. Look in upscale store on line catalogues where you’d never normally shop. Spend one day on line shopping. Spend another day trying on new gowns. Something is out there. Really. you have to cut some losses and maybe it’s your dress.
If after all this, you still love your dress….keep insisting the alterations are finished asap! You can threaten not to pay the balance due. Not a nice thing to do, but if she is qualified and can do it, she’lldo it. Oterwise, she’ll chalk it up to her inexperience and not finish. Maybe your alterations are surpass her abilities and she bit off more than she can chew. You need to sweelty, and honestly, speak to your dressmaker.
Pls keep us informed. I am worried for your sanity. make it a happy day, please!
Post # 9
Oh, I still love my dress. I paid over $3K for it so there is just no going back. Not to mention almost $500 for the alterations. Thanks for all the support, I was just shocked to see it that way, I did voice my concern with them and they were like we get that reaction all the time but they need two more fittings before they do the seams. Which sounds right. I am short so i just have to realize that i won’t ever look like a runway model, although i did buy 5 inch heels for the big day!!
So i went to the venue today to see where we can have our buffet since there will be no room in the actual ballroom without sacraficing seats. They said we could use the palor room so that has removed a lot of stress. I have to complete my seating chart tonight, because i cannot move foward without it. I can’t finalize the linens or the number of centerpieces, so going there today was a great decision. When i woke up today i was thinking ” I am not doing anything”. But i ended up going to the venue and to the wholesale market place to make arrangements for my floral order. It helps that i have a deadline for this wednesday to finalize my linens and personal bouquet with the vendor so once that is over with, it should be smooth sailing but still hate all this!!!
Post # 10
Okay, I had my third fitting on Saturday. And finally I am in love. Although, I am a little annoyed that i have to go back at least two more times for a total of 5 fittings. But i guess since my alteration was so complicated, it is worth it. Plus, i have fallen in love all over again with my dress. All I need to do i figure out my hair do
Post # 11
So happy things are going well for you!! Post a picture of this infamous dress!!!