Post # 1
A bridesmaid I accidentally insulted is still upset with me one week later after a profuse apology and a clarification, actually said ‘besides I already bought the dress’, after I asked her if she still wanted to be in the wedding. She was not joking. She also said the decision of whether or not she would still be in the wedding (two months away) would be mine, because it’s my wedding. I’m not the one who’s upset here, so I told her it was actually her decision because she’s the one that’s upset.
I want her to be in the wedding, this is not likely to change. The idea of having someone in the wedding just because of a $200 dress is upsetting and I’m not sure what to do with the whole situation. Help! 🙂
Post # 3
Can you give more information about the back story?
Post # 5
If she only wants to be in the wedding because she already bought the dress and does not want to continue her friendship with you, I do not think it is okay for her to be in the wedding. More backstory would definitely be useful in this situation, though.
Post # 6
I don’t understand the problem. You said something, she got upset, you apologized. She said she’d still be in the wedding and noted that she already bought her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress.
Don’t over-analyze her words. You apologized, that’s all you can do.
Post # 7
@peachacid: What would you like to know? I’m trying to be careful not to be too gossipy.
Post # 8
I’d be interested in hearing more of the story, just to understand a bit better, but if she were really, really upset, having the dress already wouldn’t make that much of a difference. She’d quit the wedding anyway. Sounds to me like she knows she’ll get over this and want to be in the wedding again.
Post # 9
if she’s still upset with you, after you apologized and such, then it’s her decision but she should let you know asap because you still have a wedding to plan. maybe she can return the dress or sell it online?
Post # 10
Give her the money for the dress and take her out. I wouldn’t want her there if that is how she feels. I only want people beside me who truly want to be there.
Post # 11
I’d like to know how you insulted her, too. Was it that big of a deal that it could cause her to drop out of your wedding? But if you apologized, and she’s still upset, I’d probably just offer to pay her back for the dress and let her back out.
Post # 12
Closed at the request of the OP.