Post # 1
It’s starting to get near “order dress or worry about timing” deadline and every time I go dress shopping I only get more confused. I went with my Mom again over the holidays and had two favorites – the Casablanca dress below and a Marisa dress (865) that was very similar except nicer lace, no sparkles, and $1500 more expensive (oh, and the picture didn’t come out).
I am really starting to doubt that I even want a dress after all. It seems like I keep getting pulled in two directions – the slim lace a-lines, and the dropped-waist mermaid dresses, neither of which I feel all that comfortable in. Everything else just looks kinda blah to me… gorgeous on other people, but weird on me. flattering but so awkward! I’ve even gotten comments from people close to me that I will actually surprise people more wearing a fairly classic wedding dress than I will if I wear something colored or short or otherwise non-traditional.
It’s not that I have issues with wedding dresses – I’ve actually really liked a number I try on. It’s that they feel awkward and not at all me, but I am so lazy and non-fashionista that I don’t even know what to do. I want a short dress, but then I need nice shoes! I want a green dress but then what will everyone else wear?! I like the long white dress, but it feels so out of character! I find the lace dresses super pretty, but my fiance isn’t big on them, and they’re probably not right for our wedding anyway. (outdoor, California in September, not very formal, big fun party)
Help me, please, hive! It is so depressing how stressful this decision is getting for me.
Casablanca 1827 – totally gorgeous, but too traditional and formal???
i believe this one is mikaella: it was my favorite from my previous trip posted about here
p.s. note to self, wear hair down at the wedding.
p.p.s. apologies for the most long-winded dress post ever. if there were an award for board bee with most unnecessary words in her posts it would be me.
Post # 3
Although you look reallt nice in the dresses you’ve posted, based on your descriptions of your personality and your wedding – I feel like a short dress would be really great for you! You can handle finding some nice shoes, right? 🙂
ETA: I still would vote for white/ivory/cream/etc and short though. I agree with a below poster that you will feel much more appropriate with the hair/make-up/jewelery/etc and the white won’t seem so strange to you.
Post # 4
I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD WEAR A WHITE DRESS!
i think that once you have everything together, like you’re makeup and hair down, your accessories on, and all your friends/family/bridal party dressed up, you will totally feel the part.
It probably feels awkward because you don’t usually dress up, but I do not think you will feel awkward on your wedding day.
It’s also a plus that if you wear the traditional long white dress you can wear whatever shoes you want (opt for something super comfy and totally you!)
Post # 5
I say wear something short since that is YOUR personality! Can you try on a few short dresses and take some pics and post them here? You shouldn’t feel awkward on your big day! 🙂
Post # 6
@Mrs.KMM: and @Jenn23: I started out this whole process thinking I wanted a shorter dress, but there’s so many more long ones out there that I’ve almost given up on it. Though I think if I really dedicated myself to looking for them (calling stores BEFORE I go try on dresses, etc), I can probably find more. I will DEFINITELY post pictures if I get some.
@heatherrobyn: I totally don’t want to feel like I’m missing out on my opportunity to wear something really special, but at the same time it’s weird hearing that people would be surprised I’d choose to wear a wedding dress. You’re right that some of it is just feeling awkard in the store, but it’s hard for me to gauge how much of that will dissipate when everyone else is dressed up (and I don’t want to make everyone else get *too* dressed up).
Post # 7
I do like the Mikaella as I put in your post before. But you can tell you’re not into the traditional type dress. You sound way more into a short or green dress and who cares what everyone else will wear – it’s YOUR day and you need to feel comfortable and gorgeous! You mentioned a big fun party so a short dress would look great, you need to try some on. Bees that have posted their short wedding dresses look fab and really pretty 😉 Good luck
Post # 8
@CatyLady: I think this is like the third time you’ve commented on one of my omgdress what do I do posts. Thank you! 😀
I do love that dress but I also feel like there’s a lot of fabric at the bottom. It’s fun in a way that a lot of full length dresses aren’t, but there’s also nothing at all subtle about it so it makes me nervous. OK, definitely going to find some short dresses to try on… SOME of the stores in the Bay Area must carry them, right?
Post # 9
What about something like this? I tried it on and I felt like it was a sun dress with a bridal twist. Very comfortable and easy to be in…and it had pockets! It didn’t quite fit my wedding but if mine were more of a relaxed sort of occasion I would have loved it! I’m sure they make something like this in other lines if you didn’t want to go the Davids Bridal route.
Post # 10
@lucylu123: That’s really pretty (I especially love the back), but I think it might be too full a skirt for me. I know David’s Bridal has some shorter styles (and some I really like) but I am a little skeptical of using them since they lost my friend’s bridesmaid dress – I was maid of honor and calling them frantically for a couple of weeks before the wedding since we ordered months early and it never came in!
Post # 11
Pick a dress you love–don’t worry about your fiance or anyone else. He will be fine on your wedding day. If you wear green, your guests will have to pick something else. They’ll probably wear be wearing black anyway.
You still have a couple months before the drop dead order date, so no panicking. POB has beautiful short dresses. Also, there are tons of bridesmaid dresses that are short and come in white/ivory–could be some good options there.
Casablanca, Jasmine and a few others allow customization. What if you did the Casablanca with a short straight skirt?
I would also recommend trying on a couple dresses that seem like nothing you would be remotely interested in. Sometimes the “change of scenery” helps you see things differently.
Post # 12
Ok – so when I looked at the link that lucylu123 posted, I saw something on the David’s Bridal website that could be a good option for you (and if not from DB, I’m sure you could find something similar from a different designer).
DB now has Two-in One gowns that start out long but you can shorten for the reception. One of the ones they have online is a dropped-waist mermaid like you commented in your OP that you like as well (and is super cute and not a full skirt at all when short – I think it would be a great party dress). That way you kind of get the best of both worlds!
Post # 13
Don’t feel like you HAVE to have a white/cream/ivory dress–I wore a short green dress and it was fabulous. My guests knew about it so they avoided green, but I told them up front that I wouldn’t have cared even if they wore green.
Post # 14
@Georgia Bee: It’s hard for me to not worry about what my fiance will like, because in general he has better fashion sense than I do. (and sometimes is very shifty in sharing his opinions because he feels like he shouldn’t care about dresses.) But you’re right that I shouldn’t worry about what other people are thinking so much.
Thank you for the Priscilla of Boston suggestion – it looks like they do have a number of shorter dresses (and apparently they’re the cheaper end of their line, so in my budget) AND they have a store in San Jose.
@Mrs.KMM: I saw that same dress after following the link. You’re right – the one on the left is DEFINITELY my style… I may have to get over my annoyance with David’s Bridal and go try it on, especially since the David’s Bridal is right near the POB store. 😀 Plan taking shape! 😀
@Mrs Grape: I totally thought of you when posting about a green dress… I think I’d want something in either green or burgundy since those colors look best on me, but I am a HUGE dork and want to have Jets colors but not Patriots colors at the wedding. I think the only issue is it opens up a whole world of shopping possibilities and I’d rather be lazy and wear white…
Post # 15
@Entangled: The easiest way would be to order a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress in either of those colors–it takes the guesswork out of shopping around. Dessy has a nice hunter green shade and a few dark reds as well. Cocomyles.com allows you to customize the style and color of the dress (it’s pretty fun to play with, actually). I bought my dress at a department store on a whim in November (I think it was November, at least), when all the gorgeous fall colors were starting to come in. Short dresses of any color are awesome, though!
Post # 16
I agree with whoever said you should try on different styles. The dresses you’ve posted before seem to have similar shapes (fitted through the waist and hips). It sounds like you’re having a hard time because you just haven’t found a dress you really love yet. Yeah it’s annoying, but keep trying! Something you love is out there.
It sounds like you are maybe looking for a more casual dress, so I don’t see why checking out places like BCBG for a non-wedding dress would be crazy. There are many beautiful white dresses out there.
Or looking at the ‘destinations’ lines of wedding dresses.
(Oh yeah, and your shoulders don’t look abnormally large to me – so don’t let that be what’s holding you back from trying on other styles!)