Post # 1
So this past weekend my friend Lisa had her bridal shower. I am a BM along with three other girls. We all live in different states, and had been communicating through email to finalize details. The MOH and MOB planned the whole shower, and the other BM’s did not do much, which is fine. However, the MOH asked me to get personalized labels for wine bottles (we gave the Bride all different wine along with a wine poem). I spent $30 on the labels and I confirmed with the girls that I got them. When I showed up at the shower, the girls had already wrapped the bottles and never used my labels. They were also kind of rude to me when I got there. I knew I should have send something about the labels, but I just ignored the situation. Since the bottles were already wrapped, I knew the labels couldnt be used. I was so annoyed that I spent money on the labels. I just wanted to vent! Has anyone else had issues being a BM??
Post # 3
@blue44: You need to talk to the bride about what happened and how the other girls were rude to you. Are they friends of yours or just the brides? I would have said something seeing as the bride wanted them. Any issues in the BP need to be addressed. I would talk to the bride.
Post # 4
@blue44: I would ask the MOH what they plan on doing about the reimbursement you are owed for the labels they never used.
Then I would give the labels to the bride and tell her that you had them made especially for her shower, unfortunately they were never used but you still wanted her to see them.
Post # 5
I think you should have address the issue there and then. I think you should try to keep the bride out of the drama, if you give the labels to her just say hey I got these for you but people didn`t use them I still want you to have them.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone. I wish I said something right away. The other BM’s are not my friends, but I have met them before (as two of them have been in brides life a long time). I was thinking of making the bride a basket of wine with the labels as a little wedding present so I can use them.
We bought the bride another gift that I never paid the MOH for (she never asked), but the amount I spent evens out with what I spent on labels. We shall see how bachlorette party planning goes. I am going to be more aware of how they treat me at if anything else happens I am def going to address it right away.
Post # 7
I think that’s a great idea to use the labels for your wedding gift instead.
I would suggest to try to keep the bride out of this. I know these are her friends rather than yours, but since she should not be involved in planning her pre-wedding parties, its best if you try to deal with their crap yourself. (And it is crap they’re giving, what mean bridesmaids!)